Not sure whether to stay or go
Background info: I have 2 kids with 2 different dads. Divorced when my 7 year old was 2 and now engaged with a 2 year old. My ex worked a lot but was suuuuper helpful with my son when we were together. We split bc of trust issues and some personal issues he had, but I really had a hard time bc we got along really well and I really loved him and our family. I met my fiancé a couple years later, and then we had my daughter. He is total opposite of my ex, he is not helpful at all with my daughter, but he does help around the house and bc of his job I am able to stay at home and work part time which I am thankful. I feel resentful a lot of times bc he comes home from work and relaxes, and on weekends he kind of does his own thing and sleeps in, goes to the gym, runs errands. I’ve mentioned needing a break and the response was that he never gets a break bc his job is super intense and long hours, so we all just have to deal. It’s so “my job” “your job” and I’m tired of it. I’ve talked so many times about it that we just barely talk anymore bc we are both feeling blah towards each other and kind of pick each other apart. He sleeps downstairs bc between his snoring and working late on his laptop I cant sleep. I’m definitely not going to marry him anytime soon, but I’m wondering how we can even fix this, I don’t want my kids growing up seeing us like this. I’m not sure if the stark contrast between the two relationships is making this so hard for me, or if this is really how most men are as dads and just stressed out? I’m so confused and not sure what to think anymore. I feel like everyone else I know has these normal happy marriages and I go home and me and my fiancé are just bickering and miserable. Also my fiance is an only child and the only long term relationship he’s had was long distance, so that definitely adds to it.