Only hearing baby at night and not preggo wife.
Hey all, I’m looking for some advice on how to hear both my wife and my kids during the night while I’m sleeping. While my wife was pregnant with our first child I heard her instantly when she needed help turning or anything else; but now with our first son born and in the room in his crib and she’s pregnant with our second child (third trimester) it seems I only hear him stirring in the night. We didn’t sleep train him so much so he wakes up a few times every night, then she wakes up to use the washroom and turn which she needs help with. The problem arises when she is trying to wake me to help her do those things and I don’t wake up for 10-15 minutes of her calling out to me. However, I will hear our son in his crib even if he stirs and doesn’t cry. It’s causing issues in our relationship and all I want to do is help, it’s all I’ve ever wanted to do and I have no idea how to solve this problem. I’ll be honest sometimes I used to get annoyed with how often I have to get up during the night and I know it’s a horrible thing to feel. Trust me, it is getting better. I’m generally a very patient person and I understand that she depends on me to help her, it’s just for some reason I simply cannot hear her like I used to and it’s very problematic. It’s been going on for several months. She used to be able to shake my pillow to wake me up, but now all she can do is whisper or speak quietly due to her sleeping positions and it doesn’t work as effectively anymore. I figure I need to say some sorta mantra in my mind to hear her or create some sorta fear that something bad will happen to her if I don’t hear her and maybe that will work? I honestly have no idea to program my brain to be more alert. Any suggestions would be much appreciated! Thanks so much.