Anonymous

Other people touching your baby

Is it just me that get super annoyed when other people want to touch my baby? Someone on the elevator in my apt building asked to touch my daughter and I said no. She looked so offended. I didn’t have time or patience to explain why. My mother in law who was with us said I overreacted. I don’t think I did.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    Not saying that you are required to give an explanation.. but something as short as “no, I just don’t feel comfortable” is usually enough and might not offend the person as much as a simple “no” I don’t think you overreacted by simply saying no. But I also wasn’t there to hear the tone of your voice that can convey more than just a “no”

  • Anonymous
    Sep 27

    You don’t owe anyone any explanation for your answer. You didn’t over react.

  • Amanda
    Sep 28

    Yea u did not overreact. You don’t need to give any explanation or apologize people should know

  • Vee
    Sep 28

    Completely normal to feel that way. We are our babies voices and I'm sure no adult would ever like being randomly touched by strangers. That person must've just been used to always being told yes when asked if they could touch a baby. Don't feel bad & don't find yourself needing to give explanations ❣️

  • Anonymous
    Sep 28

    I always say “aw you can touch his toes” aka don’t touch his hands and don’t think about touching his face lol I try to be nice, but I don’t want strangers touching my kids either, noooo ma’am

  • Anonymous
    Sep 28

    You owe no one nothing . Especially when it comes to your child . “No” is a perfectly fine answer

  • G
    Sep 29

    You do not owe an explanation to anyone. I would have done the same thing.

  • Genesis
    Sep 29

    You have a right to say No.

  • Momof2
    Sep 29

    Sooo annoying! Don’t feel bad about setting boundaries to keep your baby healthy

  • Diana
    Sep 30

    While, of course, you don’t have to let anyone touch you or your child - I personally found it helpful to understand that it’s a cultural norm for some people and they mean the best. For example, some people believe that if you smile at a baby, you must touch the baby’s face or it will bring bad luck. Some people are still very superstitious. Again, you don’t need to let anyone touch your child - but just know that that stranger is most likely trying to be nice / helpful per the beliefs they were brought up with.

  • La
    Oct 01

    I don’t think you overreacted. You are the mother and know what is best. I think people should ask you first . For example, say your child has curly hair(mines do). Sometimes people want to touch and say “OmG her curls.” I think they should ask you. Plus you also want to show your child someone can not touch them without permission.

  • Nicole
    Oct 03

    Big No. I don't want my babies getting sick, especially from some stranger.

  • Teree
    Oct 03

    I’m a nurse and have grown to loathe handshakes — who knows where that hand has been and when the last time it was washed?!? When someone wants to shake my hand, I decline and say I’m getting over a bad cold and they step back like I have the plague LOL Try that tactic — if anyone has ever gotten sick by a child’s daycare/school germs they will react the same way.

  • C S
    Oct 03

    At least that person asked! So many people just do it. You have every right to say no and you don’t owe anyone—except your child, a thing! Personally(within reason), I let people engage with my baby however. I believe 1) it’s a learning experience for him 2) he will only benefit from more love and affection 3) if he’s in public, he’s breathing that air and getting exposed to those germs anyway

  • antigrav_kids
    Oct 03

    I think you did great! No one is obligated to get to touch a baby, and I say that as a person who wishes I got to hold every baby I ever met. If you're gut, instinct, rational mind, whatever, tells you know, then the answer's no. You've got a good reason whatever it is, and even if you don't, it's your kid, not theirs.

  • Tash
    Oct 03

    I just dont know why anyone would ask! I would never expect to be able to "touch" a stranger's baby. If it's a friend or colleague and their body language suggests they are open to it, I might ask and even then I am prepared to hear something like "let's see if he wants to go to you" aka "maybe not".