Outside

How often do you take your two year old out? I work and go to school and I’m so tired . I usually take him out once a week but I feel it’s not good enough. So other mom and dads, how often you take your children out and about ? I’m just curious

  • Anonymous
    Sep 04

    I think you working AND going to school at the same time as raising a child makes you THAT mom many wish they were. so don't feel too bad that you can't make it outside as much you'd like right now. I agree with the other guy that it's quality not quantity. Are his cousins local? Maybe you could see if he could go out with them once in a while.

  • Porsche
    Sep 04

    One lives in the Bronx and the other on is in Connecticut. But the part in the Bronx is the bad part . I don’t like going over there often

  • B
    Sep 04

    Does he go out to daycare, or is home all day? If daycare, just focus on going out once a day on the days you’re home (weekend or whatever).

  • Porsche
    Sep 04

    No daycare

  • Anonymous
    Sep 04

    We got outside to play everyday. She spends a minimum of 3 hours outside.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 04

    So he’s inside all day 6 days a week? Honestly I think it’s a problem. You’re a super mom working and going to school. But either you need to get someone to watch him and take him out or push yourself. He needs to experience the world. And move and get exercise. And play. And sunlight. And develop skills that you can’t get inside the same room all the time.

  • Porsche
    Sep 05

    He isn’t inside all day and everyday.

  • Verne
    Sep 05

    Like you, Im in school and work full time. I'm also dealing with illness in my family. We don't get out much either, but we do plenty of activities within the home. This summer we started a garden on our patio, and the boys are 'responsible' for watering the plants. We paint, read books, etc. It nowabout how much you get out, but the quality of the time you're spending with your baby(ies). Set a weekly routine to get outside once a week and move from there. Im in school now so that I can provide my kids and myself with the life we deserve. I try to make the sacrifices for that small now, so I won't have to later. Ya know? Keep up the good work, Porsche. You'll figure out what works for you and your family.

  • Anonymous
    Sep 05

    I work full time and have number two on the way, and I feel you on the lack of time. For me, it's quality vs quantity. I do get envious of the mom's that just have allll day to hang with their kids and take them to the cool daytime kid events, but I can't. So I make what I can do count. Everyday me and him will do something for 40min-1hour that does NOT involve TV/screens. My son is four, so we go to the park, playdough, bicycle around the neighborhood, draw, laser tag... something. He needs that time to get to know and play with you. I almost feel that being a full time working mom has made our relationship better, because I don't want to spend what little time we have arguing or us just staring at a screen. I see other stay at home moms get angry and frustrated at the non-stop mom duties, and I know that would be me if I stayed home all day and did nothing but clean the house and keep children out of trouble. I will also add that he went to a good daycare from 8weeks, so I knew they were teaching him the things that were important and he was getting his socialization in. Bottom line: You're super mom, and it's hard to do it all. But find about a hour that you two just hang/play/read. When he's 10, you want him to remember that you were there for him. When he enters the teenage years, he has to know that he can trust you.

  • Vonda
    Sep 05

    We run errands together, go to the library, museum, park. It’s hard to do play dates sometimes but we make it work. We run errands twice a week and go to extra places (zoo, library, etc) about once a week. Sometimes twice because I try to go to the library once I week. I have a place specifically for my sons things. Backpack, coat, hat, shoes, etc in the entryway. Easy for him to access so he can put things back and get them himself. So we aren’t running around trying to find these things as we are about to walk out the door. It makes it much easier to leave the house in a timely manner and with less stress.

  • Sarah
    Sep 05

    I also work full time & my son is in daycare during the week so we rarely get out other than maybe a short walk after dinner once a week. On the weekends he runs errands with either his dad or me and we try to do 1 more enjoyable/kid activity a day. I actually find it easier to be with him out of the house than in (less mess, I can’t get anything done around the house with him there anyways), but that is just what works for us!

  • Porsche
    Sep 05

    Thanks all for the advice ❤️

  • Vee
    Sep 06

    Don't be so hard on yourself. You're juggling a lot and I honestly can't relate because I only work PT and don't go to school so I have time on my hands. My almost-2-year-old goes with me everywhere when I run errands or go shopping which is about 2x a week. On my third day off it's usually out for ice cream or play time at a local park.... It can be tough going out with him at times because he can be a handful but some days are better than others and some days Im more tired then the day before!

  • Anonymous
    Sep 06

    I work and go to school full time. I get about an hour and a half of outside time with her everyday. Sometimes we venture out to a play group, playground, or the library. If it's the playground, we may go for 20 minutes every other day. Anything else is once a week at the most. Working and going to school is super difficult with a child. Dont be hard on yourself

  • Cathy
    Sep 07

    Depends on what we have planned. But we are out in some capacity every single day. If I stayed inside it would be me that would go nuts!!!

  • Anonymous
    Sep 08

    Usually I take my kids out once a day, when I am home. Sometimes it’s just going to the grocery store ... but I feel like it helps all of our sanity to get out of the house.. We have a rec center that we go too a lot of days, they go to “child watch,” and I take some time to myself. You could try to find something like that and use that time to do school work or whatever. I love it! I get to workout, shower, pay bills whatever ... and my kids get some socialization. They do crafts, go outside to play ect.

  • Elle
    Sep 10

    Every day. To learn and observe and interact with the world. Even if it is just playing with blocks or twigs,and leaves! in the backyard while you review your course notes, it's good to get outside stimulus.

  • Lil Ma
    Sep 24

    I have 4 toddlers: 7,6,3,2 oldest 3 are in school and I stay home with youngest all day and I am a homebody who dreads going out( online student, work from home mom) so I make being home with mom a fun adventure with my kids until dad comes and takes them to the park, out for a drive and my boys are fine with staying home mostly with mom and being out n about with dad. Don’t feel bad we all have our short coming. Kids understand us more than we think 🤔 relax mom your doing fine

  • Lil Ma
    Sep 24

    Oh and I am also a sufferer of chronic joint pain ( Lupus & fibromyalgia) so the littlest I can do goes along way for me with my kids who are all special needs ( Autism) so I wouldn’t worry mom your doing your best!!!

  • Oscar T.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Oct 11

    I think it is really hard work to take care kids, family, work and school. You are amazing. Though it is good to know how others doing, I recommend not to compare too much. You have enough stress on life already, you don't need additional unnecessary comparison. (since this is kind of like a nationwide discussion group) Take care of yourselves and plan your time wisely. Running errand or grocery shopping can be an adventure for your little ones already. Think outside of the box about going out. Kids will not count how many times you take them out to the parks. Kids care whether quality time spent with their loved ones.