Parent guilt over growing twins

My Littles are 6 months on Thursday and they’re rolling over, crawling, teething, pulling up on the rails of their cribs and my Twin A is sitting up unassisted. How? They were just 4 & 5 pound little balls of human just the other day?! I feel so sad that I’m not feeling as present as I would like to be in this whole Twin Life thing. I’m never NOT busy though, and I’ve blinked and suddenly it’s been half a year. How do you all cope with guilt as a parent?

  • Luis
    Mar 18

    That happens mostly at the beginning because of their growth spurts one after the other, you can’t barely blink and they changed. But, it slows down, changes will not be so dramatic. I can tell you that every period has its own charm, just enjoy it even if it’s just for five minutes. At 6 months, take a lot of pictures and make a lot of videos, because it just goes to fast an there’s no way you can remember and appreciate everything. Also, I dealt with it by scheduling time to be with my daughter without interruptions, even if it was just 30 minutes that day, and my second strategy was to include her in my stuff... from going shopping for the house to Home depot. She still loves it. (P.S. You will never be as present as you would like, that feeling is part of our job description eheh)

  • A
    Mar 18

    You are not alone! I have twins and work full time. And life is just SO busy. And after 3 years I still have mom guilt. And it GOES so fast. It has gotten better with time. I personally had to let go of the little stuff. Ie let go of having a perfectly clean house. And just try to cherish the times I do have with my kids. It helps me to get out of the house with them - for some reason it’s easier for me to let go of all the nagging responsibilities of adulthood if we are at the park or somewhere playing. Lol Those are generally my most enjoyable times with my kids.

  • Vic
    Mar 19

    I am a sahm and let me tell you..there is always something that we as parents aren't doing right or could do better...I've used my mom guilt to motivate me to do better. But other than that it really is useless to feel that way. Kids grow up so fast especially in those earlier years, but quality over quantity. If I've had a particularly busy day...i find that just holding my son while he naps is good quality time together. You have to make this time count...spend that quality time with your kids...it adds up over the days...but wait til you have months, years, decades.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 20

    Welcome to parenthood! A lifetime of parental guilt 🙂. It’s completely normal - just remember to focus on quality time over quantity.

  • Brigitte
    Mar 20

    You know, this is why I feel frustrated when people always look at me sagely and say, “enjoy it! Take it all in! It goes so fast!” I know they have the best intentions when they say that; but I’ve really come to feel that instead of encouraging me it just makes me feel guilty. Parenthood, ESPECIALLY in the first year, is so hard and emotionally challenging. One minute you’re wildly in love and the next minute you’re crawling the walls and wish you could just book a ticket to Aruba by yourself. Instead of always being told to enjoy EVERY SINGLE MINUTE I just need someone to tell me that I’m doing a great job. So, YOU ARE DOING A GREAT JOB, MAMA! You are doing the best you can. You meet your kids’ needs and you love them the best you can. The rest will take care of itself.