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Parenting is tough!

Anonymous

Hi all! I just found out I’m pregnant and I have been so exhausted! I wake up at 6am for work and I have a 13 month old who still wakes up twice a night for his pacifier. Last night I was so tired I started falling asleep while I was getting my son ready for bed. My husband was being kind so he told me he would put my son to bed. After I was in bed, I heard my husband getting angry at my son for crying and not falling to sleep right away. I let it go but I was crying on the inside because I felt so bad for my son. I know my son just needs some love at night. How can I talk to my husband about his anger without making him feel like he is a bad dad?

  • Jennifer
    Aug 30, 2018

    My husband can be the same way sometimes. What I tell him is to breathe. Dads don’t have the same instincts as we do. Also every man is different so I don’t want to tell you what to say to him, but I would tell my husband to calm down and either walk away for a minute or honestly I would just do it. I know this probably doesn’t help much so I hope someone else has a better answer.

  • Martika
    Aug 30, 2018

    Hey your title is so correct parenting is so tough! I find that my daughter is used to night time snuggles with me so it's easier for me just to go ahead and do it myself bc she will give me husband a hard time however I know my husband and daughter are great playing together so sometimes I'll ask during the day for him to take her outside/pool/or somewhere fun if I need some me time (we all deserve this!). As of what to say I'm not too sure maybe express your gratitude that he tried but tell him how you feel about the screaming as well and maybe ask him what he would enjoy doing more with yalls son...