Pros and cons of having kids birthdays be close together?
My son is already going on 26 months... my husband has just finally made his mind up that he really does want a baby #2. I want to start trying soon so he and baby #2 won’t be too far apart in age. But my husband wants to wait another 4 months minimum. His only reasoning is because if we are successful in the first try (like last time) the kids would have birthdays within weeks of each other. He didn’t really have good support on why that’s such an issue so I won that discussion and we will be trying next month (missed the window this cycle already). I’m just worried that we might have trouble this go around and the age gap will just get bigger and bigger. I can see a con being that my birthday is in November, thanksgiving the week after, then my husband’s birthday is in December along with the holidays, and our son’s birthday is early Jan. Baby #2 could be in December or January at the earliest. Hectic couple of months but is that something I’m going to be pulling my hair out over? Are the kids going to have issues with each other? I tried to do a pros and cons list in my mind and all I see is - pro - have one big party to celebrate everyone’s birthday at once (save money on rentals). Con - hectic holiday months (but could be a pro by getting it all over with at once with a big celebration). So is it better to try asap so the kids aren’t too far apart but risk having birthdays super close together? Or better to wait... age gap won’t be as big of an issue than having birthdays close together?