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Quit job to stay at home


When I had my baby I went back to work full time and just hated it. Felt sad every day and in the end asked to go part time which was better. However as time went by I was made to feel useless at work, I had peers treat me differently because I had a baby and was doing part time and slowly I found tasks being taken away from me from my supervisors and I felt bored and unmotivated. The only thing I enjoyed about the job was getting out and feeling some adult interaction. And friends. My husband got offered a new job with his company in a different state (California) with great benefits and we decided to go for it, I felt my job wasn’t even worth staying for. So I resigned. Now I’m a full time mom. My husband is amazing and so helpful , he works from home a lot and he loves our baby girl. He is a very positive person. I’m just starting to feel quite useless, missing the feeling of going to work and having a purpose. But I love spending time with my baby! It’s a hard feeling , I have worked all my life. I have begun regretting leaving my job, even though I was unhappy and bored in it 🤷‍♀️ I’m a very outgoing, confident person. I’m always taking my baby girl out to activities ... I don’t sit around. Can other SAHM please give me some advice to shake myself off this feeling? To Appreciate being a SAHM? And stop thinking about what I had before? Just general tips please 🙏

  • Lulu
    Nov 24, 2018

    Think about it like this. You have a full time job! You even work lots and lots of overtime! You do the job of a daycare worker, a housekeeper, a laundress, a personal assistant.... if you were to get paid for all you do, you'd be filthy rich! You are also enriching your bond with your daughter. You won't miss out on any milestones. You'll always be there for her when she needs you. I hear horror stories about daycares and whatnot.... You are protecting her from that! You are definitely not useless. You are the cornerstone of your family! You are blessing your family everyday. I suggest going out and seeing what you can get into with your little buddy. Mommy and me classes, gymboree, library, zoo,aquarium.... It sounds like you need to get out of the house. There may even be a mommy group in your area. Lots of people on here are from California, maybe post a thread asking if anyone wants to do something or if there is a mommy group in your area. You're doing great mama!

  • Raji
    Dec 12, 2018

    You can always find new part time work as your husband works from home a lot.

  • Bernardette
    Dec 13, 2018

    Where are you in California? I have joined a couple local mom groups on Facebook and they've led to a lot of IRL meet ups and friendships. I'd suggest looking online and at local community points like child development classes at your local community college or community center to connect with other moms.