Rant: pissed at spouse over holidays
Every year my husband and I have a battle royale over the holidays. We spend Christmas Eve with my family and Christmas Day with his family. The problem every year is that he doesn’t like my family’s Christmas Eve traditions. This includes, going to a relative’s around 5. Santa comes around 7 or 8. Then we go to my parents to open their gifts to grandkids. This has been our tradition at least 30 years. It is now hard with littles who go to bed at 7. However, all my siblings grinned and beared it with their kids. This year I gave in and told my mom we would come over early in the day, then go to the relative’s and head home afterwards. Of course, now my husband thinks we should go to our church service from 8 to 9. I would live that, but... 1.) this seems utterly hypocritical!!! 2.) Not sure things at my relatives will end in time 3.) I feel traditions are important and should not be totally changed to suit my husband’s preference each year. Bottom line, I am not going to tell my mom it is too late to go to her house but go somewhere else, even if it is church. Obviously church is important but if it is just an issue of attending church, we could go with my mom on Christmas Eve at 4. So sick of arguing over our plans every single year. Does this seem unreasonable to anyone else? Do you all have similar arguments?