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Recently became stahm looking for stuff to do with my son during the day

Anonymous

I recently became a stay at home mom and I feel like I’m failing I don’t know what to do with my 3yr old during the day. I know he needs to be doing hands on things and playing and not just on his tablet several times a day (only hr and half at a time). I feel like all we do is play on our electronics and then go out to the yard for a bit then he’s asking to come back in cause he’s bored so we come in play toys till I get bored then back to the tablet And phone I hate it. I want to do more with him but I really don’t know what to do or how😔😭 my sons dad doesn’t see an issue with any of it cause he’s always playing games on some type of electronic and has been all his life but my son is starting to forget the stuff he learned in daycare like shapes colors counting and I feel like a failure

  • Destiny
    May 06

    Try going to a park? Going to a museum or just a walk in the stroller. You’re doing fine!

  • PK
    May 06

    Find a children’s museum in your area, zoo, aquarium... get a membership if it’s within your budget!! So worth it. Find activities on Pinterest. There’s a lot of mom bloggers out there that just post about activities. Check out the parks in your area. Not sure where you live but we have a ton in our area so I’m trying to make it a point to visit each one at least once. See if there are any fun classes you two can take together. Some times a community college or center may offer free or cheap mommy and me classes. Check out the library. We go at least twice a month to pick out books and play with the toys they have there. Try to make mommy friends and set up play dates. There’s the peanut app to meet moms in your area. See if you can find a mommy group on fb and check out their events.

  • Anonymous
    May 06

    I know what to do when we’re out I just don’t know how to incorporate day today things so he can actually do them with me, I do arts and crafts with him but they only last about 20 minutes or so my fiancé is constantly telling me there’s more to do with him then crafts all day but like what we play sometimes and I can’t really have him cook with me cause we don’t have much counter space for him and most dinner require me to do everything on the stove. I guess a better question would be what a daily schedule for a toddler should look like I’ve googled it but no help. Another thing is how do you manage the cleaning and making time to play and go out I feel like I’m constantly cleaning and think that that’s why I have no engery to play what are somethings he could do with me?

  • PK
    May 06

    Does your 3 yr old still take a nap? Our day to day routine is roughly this: -get ready/changed -breakfast -clean up/my son plays independently or sings and dances to music that I just play for about 20 min -get out of the house for an activity outside (park, museum, aquarium, zoo, play date, run errands, etc) -come home for lunch and nap -during his nap I do a bit of cleaning/dinner prep -he wakes up and we do a snack and tv show (it used to be just 30 min but now it’s more like an hr) - during this time I finish up cooking dinner or I relax a bit myself -we go out in the backyard to play, run more errands, go to a park, do an activity at home... -come home for dinner -play -bedtime routine I have this app where I list out everything that needs to be cleaned and how often. The stuff that needs to be done daily is not on there. It’s called Tody. I paid for it but it’s worth it for me. So when I clean during his nap I’ll knock off 1-2 tasks. It’s enough to maintain the house and it helps me maintain my energy. Also some of the cleaning tasks I have, my son is able to help me with. So some times during the time after his snack/tv show time I have him help me clean. He also helps me out in our garden. Just going out and exposing him to all that’s out in the world can help teach him stuff - even the basics like shapes, colors and counting. Certain toys and books can help too. My son loves doing puzzles with me. We also got coloring books for cheap at the dollar store. We color stuff and name the color we are using and what we are coloring. I also get some of my home activities from @busytoddler on Instagram. This routine has worked for us for a while now.. might not work for you but hopefully may give you an idea? You’re not a failure... it took me a while to get into a routine as a SAHM. And that routine kept changing based on my son’s growth too.

  • Anonymous
    May 07

    Thank you so much I’m definitely going to give it a try. Its just been so difficult adjusting I’m used to being out and working all the time and only having like 3 hrs to really play with him before bed and I hated it cause he was always mad that I was leaving for work so I couldn’t take it anymore and wanted to be with him more and now that I am I don’t know what to do with all the time we have 🤦‍♀️ so thank you all so much for the tips it helps so much 💜

  • Brittany
    May 07

    I follow a Facebook page called “hands on as we grow” and they post a lot of cool ideas for kids activities, mostly crafty type things but a lot of them are educational too you should definitely check it out!

  • Katherine
    May 08

    Find a book full of activities all device free. I’m a stahm too and I get the feeling of needing to do more stimulating things with your child. There are also things liken”Teach my Toddler” you can buy to help him remember what he learned in daycare. Also being a stahm mom it’s hard to do it all. I’ve been feeling like my house isn’t being cleaned because me so busy with my LO. Just take it one day at a time and try to do better the next day. I really do recommend the screen time free book of activities. Like one activity is asking your LO where their nose is and once they point to it give them a sticker to put on their nose, you then ask where their ear is, mouth, elbow, etc. You got this momma!