Right way to communicate with hubby.
So I’ve always had the issue of going out with my partner to someone’s gathering or party and not knowing how to get him out the door after spending a considerably good time with his friends. I’m not an outgoing, adventurous nor social person but I try to be every now and then for him. Recently we’ve had kids and I’ve grown to be more strict with our outings due to the kids schedules, how long car rides are, locations where they can play, time and other things. A huge problem that continues coming up is the car rides to places! If they’re an hour or longer I prefer not to go because kids get fussy and cranky in the car which in consequence I get cranky because I’ve got to figure out how to entertain them or soothes them while getting motion sick myself from moving or looking back in the car. The second biggest problem of all time since we’ve been together is that he seems to have so much fun talking bull**** with his friends that he never wants to leave. When we didn’t have kids I would just separate myself from his group and wait in a corner with my phone or watch tv til he was ready. Now that we have two kids, I just hate going with him because our kids are still young and all they want to do is play, run around, make a mess and it frustrates me that he expects me to take care of them alone, have them in check! While he talks, laughs and drinks with his buddies. By the time I’m ready to get home because I’m tired of watching/making sure kids behave, I bring up to him hey is this time, getting late for the kids. His response which has never changed is “ yeah give me til whatever time or let me finish this beer and will go.” So I wait and then watch how he keeps having a good time laughing, trying not get up grabbing the kids and taking off by myself and letting figure out how to get home when he is ready. I’ve bottled up so many of this situations but I’m now asking myself is it that he just doesn’t care enough! Does he not care if I’m having a good time? Does he not care that the kids don’t stay still and can get hurt running around in this unknown home? Doesn’t care that there’s things I have to get done for the kids at home, like shower time and bed time? How to talk without arguing with a man that seems to only care about his time or his schedule?