Posted in Child Care, Multiple Children, Working Parents

Sad and frustrated about our nanny possibly leaving

Anonymous

I’m not sure if our nanny is leaving but I get the sense she may be searching elsewhere. We’ve had her 1.5 years 3 days a week while I work 12 hour hospital shifts and she’s amazing. I’m currently pregnant with my second so we were discussing a pay increase from 15 to 19$ an hour for the fall when I go back to work and the plan to put our older daughter in preschool for 3.5 hours a day on the days she’s there (she’s drop her off, pick her up and put her down for a nap). She said she’d let us know her thoughts on our offer. I’m now terrified she is going to leave! We could go up to 20$ but not much higher - we can’t afford it! Just the idea of finding someone else when we have someone we love and trust and how may daughter could react makes me feel so sad. Having to look so last minute because you can’t find someone in May for September makes me feel incredibly anxious as well as it was such a hard emotional process before to put your trust in a total stranger. Our daughter loves her and I just feel so many emotions about another change in her life. We can’t do day care because of our work hours. Anyone else have to switch nannies? Was it ok? Did your kids adjust?

  • Holly Garnett-Pedreira
    May 12

    Kids adjust.. with the help of mommy and daddy. Why don't you flat out ask your nanny if that's what her plans are because if so, you need to know tell her you wont be mad at her but you need to know for obvious reasons. Tell her the most you can go up is 20$. If that's not good enough.. then you might want to find someone else more loyal and understanding! Goodluck xo

  • Marcia
    May 12

    As someone who seems to have a nanny transition about every year, I can testify you will find someone else if it comes down to it. And you are paying very well. Can you have an honest convo with your nanny? Ask her if she is happy being a nanny, and if she is nervous at all about the new baby coming? Dig around a little with some polite questions and something might come up. It doesn’t hurt to say you’re trying to plan for the next year and would like to give her a raise and let her know your new expectations (pick ups/ drop offs) and if she is interested in staying on. If not, then Care.com to the rescue. Best wishes! 🙏🏽

  • Stacy
    May 13

    I second what everyone else said. Just have an honest conversation with your nanny. She should know that you're not going to vengeful, but you need to know what her plans are so that you can be prepared. Maybe she is worried about the new baby or the time off while you're on maternity leave (not sure if this is your situation...just an idea if it is). Finding out her reason(s) for looking elsewhere may help you guys reach a conclusion one way or the other for if you are still a good fit for each other.

  • Lily
    May 14

    I work as a nanny, and I would say just talk to her! I am not sure where you live but your pay sounds just fine to me! And until you talk to her you have no idea what could be going on in her life! But, if she does end up leaving your little one will be fine.