Posted in Stay-at-Home Moms, Babies

SAHP how often do you leave the house?

I’m at home by myself basically all day everyday with my 5 1/2 month old and as much as I would like to get out I never do. Between the heat and him hating the car and crying and sweating like crazy (in the process of getting a 4-1 car seat) I just don’t feel like it’s worth it. Should I be taking him out more? The only place I go is to the store for groceries. I have no family down here so I really have no where to go and have no help.

  • Aida
    Jul 14

    What about a walk in stroller? Or even in a carrier? Getting outside is good for you and baby. With heat, just go as soon as you can in the morning. Also, they have fans you can clip on strollers. Any parks nearby? Of course baby will not be able to fully use, but just playing on something different is stimulating for their development. Getting out and doing it a few times is the only way to see what you truly need to bring when you take your baby out. Believe me, we have all had to learn through trial and error, you’ve got this Momma!

  • Kristin
    Jul 14

    He doesn’t like the baby carrier he gets mad when he’s constricted lol he’s fine for like 5-10 minutes then he cries after that. I have taken him for a few walks in the stroller he looks terrified in it but I think it’s just cause he’s not use to it. I’ve taken him to target and Walmart and Starbucks and a few of the times he cried bloody murder and everyone would stare and point and “aww poor baby” I’m sure you’ve all been there lol, he is getting a littler better now though!

  • Kristen
    Jul 14

    He is still little so maybe just walk around the neighborhood in the morning before it's too hot.

  • Kristin
    Jul 14

    I take my now 6 mos daily since he was 2 mos just within our neighborhood— park, playground, library, etc, in a stroller. But he is a very early riser, atm, he wakes up 6am, with the hot summer weather, we head out as early in the morning as we can, like I just feed & change him then head out, or late afternoon & make it in time for his bedtime. Have you tried taking him out of the stroller, make him explore what’s around by holding or carrying him? We have 2 types of baby carrier, an Ergo & a K-Tan, my baby got used to it now.

  • Geena
    Jul 14

    When LO was same age he hated the stroller, too, so i had to make use of a carrier wrap and started with 15 min walk around the neighborhood and went on longer as he got better with it. Also placed him on his car seat when we’re inside the house so he’ll get use to it more when going out. We head out early soon after his breakfast when he’s full, changed and recharged and the rest of the day we stay in for other stuff

  • Katelyn
    Jul 15

    Also finding mom groups and mom friends and meeting them at different places or at each others homes helped me a lot. It took me awhile to get comfortable going out with my daughter. She also hated the car seat: i tried changing her diaper, feeding a good amount, and then driving during her nap time to try and make it more manageable. Also if you have just a yard outside to sit in to change your scenery. I also give my daughter toys that light up and make noises in car to keep her busy. She also liked the stroller more once she was able to be forward facing.

  • Cam
    Jul 16

    I would try to take him out in the stroller more. The more you do it the more they get used to it! You can also get some fun toys to attach to the stroller

  • Khris
    Jul 16

    Went through the same thing (screaming in the car seat) at that age! The good news is mine grew out of it; hopefully yours will too! Def get out of the house! It’s good for you and baby. There are usually nice parents at library story time and other kid activities, which is nice, even for a very short conversation. :) Ditto trying a baby carrier! Try to find a good used one like Ergo, Lillebaby, Tula. Its usually half price used.

  • Shelby
    Jul 17

    Our daughter is the same way. She screams in the car seat. But, we do get out with the use of her stroller and a carrier. She didn’t love her carrier until she was able to face out in it. Does your carrier do that? Maybe just a walk through a park or in your neighborhood? Hot is an understatement here too but it’s always nice to get out... even if it’s just for a few minutes.

  • Whitney
    Jul 17

    On my husband’s off days we go do a family day. Might go the mall park or just walk.

  • Whitney
    Jul 17

    2 days a week of no grocery shopping or appointments are needed.

  • Victoria
    Jul 17

    I found taking my son outside was good because he got exercise and got to see new things. My son cried when he was that age too. I would just take him to the closest grocery store or park. But I take my son out almost every day and he has almost never gotten sick. My best friend rarely takes her daughter out and is sick anytime there is something new! May or may not be related. But soon your LO will get used to the car seat

  • Lindsay
    Jul 21

    The library is a good option. They often have toys and programs for babies & toddlers. We just started taking our toddler and it's his favorite place. It's also nice because it can be a short enough trip between naps.

  • Michelle
    Jul 23

    Go out for yourself when you feel you need to. Or do it everyday. Baby will adjust. Go to the library. Walk around a store you like to window shop. Walk around a mall. You gotta take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. However that looks like. Bc I know what it feels like to be doing it all alone and that first year is so hard. So so hard and depleting. Around 13 months, I felt a big shift. My daughter was walking and starting to say her first words and the months that followed only get more hectic chasing them around. She's is 20 months now and I would say the day-to-day is easier bc I can see her personality, I can communicate with her, and we can play together. It doesn't feel as lonely as that first year can. Hang in there!!!! Look forward to an even closer bond in the future and stay present to enjoy the beauty this age has to offer.

  • Kailynn
    Aug 08

    I am/was in the same boat as you. My family all lives on the east coast, so no help and a SAHM. When my son was really little I got involved in a Moms group and it helped me to get out of the house in the early days and it was so nice to connect with other moms. I also have a dog that cannot be ignored so I make it part of my routine to get out and walk with him and the baby. My son is now one and I make it part of our routine to get out and do one activity a day. Whether it's going to the library, splash pad, a different park, or just the grocery store. I find we are both much happier if we get out and do something. That being said, dont force it. If driving is too stressful try using your stroller in the house with a bunch of toys to stimulate him, then start doing longer and longer walks from there? Hope this helps!