Should you apologize even if it was an accident ?

I took my daughter to a bouncy house play place and this boy hit her in her face on accident *she has a huge bruise on her cheek now. I told the mom and she said it was just an accident and there were a lot of kids to justify it. I said regardless he should apologize and if my daughter would of done it I would make her get down and say sorry because it’s compassionate and most human thing to do instead she saw my daughter crying and didn’t acknowledge her feelings and have her son apologize. So he did but when the mom called him she said “can you say sorry even though you don’t have to since it was an accident” like really. What do you guys think

  • Jennifer
    Jul 18, 2018

    That is rude of the mom to teach her son that. I would definitely get my kids to apologize. I would straight up tell the mom even its an accident you should teach your kid to apologize truthfully. Hurting others even by accident causing a bruise is not acceptable in my book. In fact just last weekend I took my daughter to play at an indoor Mcdonald playground. This 5yr old boy was very wild and goes up to my daughter and hits her face. He seems like he was just playing around not hitting her too hard but it made my daughter cry. I walked to the boy the first time and said "can you not do that cuz its mean and you made my daughter cry" but he did it the second time. I walk to his grandparents with my daughter crying and told them that their grand kid hit my daughter the 2nd time. They apologize and made him apologize.

  • Marta
    Jul 18, 2018

    Ok I’m not going crazy, it’s been nagging me all day especially since she has a huge bruise. At least they apologized. Thanks

  • Katrina
    Jul 18, 2018

    While I wouldn't make my child say the word sorry, I do make my little one 1. Acknowledge what happened and how it happened, since he often doesn't pay enough attention to his body to notice by himself and it can help him figure out how to recognize and avoid those movements when un safe 2. Have my child make sure the hurt child has an adult helping them if needed 3. Prompt my child to ask if the other child is okay or something they can do to make the other child feel better. When accidents are brushed under the rug, kids don't learn to pay attention to their surroundings during play or respect other people's space as possible. Accidents will always happen, but acknowledge and troubleshoot so the child can see both how their actions affect others and ways to avoid that accident in the future.

  • Katrina
    Jul 18, 2018

    As I write that^, I'll note that my child is only two and can't really comprehend much more than that. The older the child, the higher the expectation.

  • Marta
    Jul 18, 2018

    He was either older by a year or 2 or the same age my daughter will be 5 in 2 months

  • Katrina
    Jul 18, 2018

    Yeah, that's totally brushing an accident under the rug with a child who should know better. Not okay!

  • Jess
    Jul 18, 2018

    I had an incident with my 5 year old in a bouncy house and an 8 year old held him down and tried to choke him. The mom apologized profusely and was screaming at her kid and kept making him apologize over and over. I think both parents get overwhelmed in these situations and maybe don’t always or can’t think straight, but an apology is normally the right way to go!

  • Mariah
    Jul 18, 2018

    No it was an accident. You shouldn’t have forced them.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 18, 2018

    It’s called empathy. Even if you aren’t sorry for your actions (that you couldn’t control) you should still be sorry for someone’s feelings being hurt and/or pain YOU caused them.

  • Marta
    Jul 18, 2018

    You can’t even kiss it cause she complains of the pain. I understand both side but not even an acknowledgment as a mother if my daughter hurts someone regardless of accident or not I’m going to stop the child ask if they are ok have my child address it and let the mother know it was an accident and we are sorry

  • Whitney
    Jul 18, 2018

    Not saying I’m sorry because really? Now if something happens I would explain that we need to be aware of our surroundings be mindful of other. Tell the other person that you didn’t mean to but no sorry is embarrassing.

  • Sarah
    Jul 18, 2018

    I think you should always apologize if you hurt someone, even if it’s an accident. But also teaching kids to say “I’m so sorry! Are you okay?” Its just empathy and all people should learn it

  • Anonymous
    Jul 18, 2018

    So when you’re walking through the grocery store and accident elbow an old lady you wouldn’t say sorry? You’d just say “it was an accident” and walk away? No, you would apologize for causing someone pain whether or not you meant to! People of ALL ages should be empathetic towards others. Even when I swipe my should on someone walking by I say “oh I’m sorry! Didn’t see you there, are you ok?”

  • Marta
    Jul 18, 2018

    Amen to anonymous

  • Stephanie
    Jul 19, 2018

    Definitely teach kids to say sorry, it’s a taught behavior not something that comes naturally. Also we need to teach our children what it means to have empathy for others, when they aren’t in the middle of the situation. Role playing is a good way to do that when things have calmed down, and you can go over what has happened from both perspectives. But most IMPORTANT we as parents need to SHOW what an apology looks like. Which means model that behavior, show your kids that you too also say sorry and ask if people are okay. I’m sure the mother of that child also displays aggressive accidental behavior and brushes it off, you can see what traits parents have through watching their kids.

  • JJ
    Jul 19, 2018

    I would be pissed for sure, but you can’t really tell someone else to parent. Let that just be all the more inspirational for you not to raise a brat.

  • Whitney
    Jul 19, 2018

    I feel like saying I’m sorry and apologizing are different. Always apologize but no sorry for us. Saying sorry is like when you do something with bad intentions then it catches up then yes that’s sorry behavior but apologizing is just showing empathy and letting the person know there was no malice behind your actions.

  • Rae
    Jul 19, 2018

    I don’t understand these parents having a problem with their children apologizing for an accident?!?? Just because they didn’t do it intentionally doesn’t mean it didn’t happen and cause pain. I guess that would explain all of these rude adults in the world...

  • Gina
    Jul 23, 2018

    You don't have to be sorry for causing an accident, but any parent guiding their child to become normal, healthy adults will teach them to understand that they should regret causing someone else pain. Not identifying that there was an issue and expressing concern for your daughter indicates there is no reason that child won't do the same thing again. I'd steer clear of that beastly family, give some extra snuggles, and try to use it as an opportunity to teach your sweet girl about how people SHOULD behave. If you encounter them again at the same or similar place and anything similar happens again, have them removed: I can't help but wonder how many "accidents" that kid has.

  • Nicole
    Jul 25, 2018

    These comments make me sad for our society and the future of our kids. We are responsible for OUR bodies!!!! Whether it is an accident or on purpose we need to acknowledge, and apologize to the person WE HURT! If I hit you, you would expect something for it! These are the people who don’t want to take accountability for themselves but then get a lawyer when something happens to them. I am a teacher and my number one is teaching my students to be kind people!!! And simply “I’m sorry” isn’t good enough! Especially when it’s not honest! There’s four parts to a good apology... the acknowledgement “I’’ sorry that I hit you on the cheek”, the reason “I didn’t mean to, it was an accident” or maybe “I was upset that you wouldn’t let me play etc.” The promise “I won’t do it again”, the concern “is there anything I can do to make you feel better?” Imagine if everyone treated others this way when they hurt someone how much better our world would be. Now don’t get me wrong I am strict but kindness to others is something that should be number one of importance! Funny thing is, the kids get it really easily! It’s the parents that are stubborn! Rant over 😜