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Shy daughter

I am a stay at home mom for a four year old girl. My little girl is very shy. She goes to pre school from 8 to 12 and even her teacher has mentioned that she doesn’t speak up much. She is usually very active and speaks a lot at home. Her brother had moved out for college and he is much older so she doesn’t have any siblings to play with. I also don’t have friends with kids her age. I need ideas to help her be more outgoing and if there are places to find play dates for her so she can meet kids her age.

  • Anonymous Mom
    Nov 27, 2018

    Maybe try to get her into dance class or gymnastics or something she might be interested in and enjoy? I’m also a stay at home mom and I am going to have my 3.5 yr old son go into gymnastics bc he’s fearless and loves to climb swing and jump and my 1 yr old daughter just started to do pageants and she will soon join gymnastics or dance to keep her active with kids her actual age. I hope this helps. If it’s too much where you live (price wise) maybe look for a mommy and me class and encourage her to make friends and role model how it’s done for her. Sometimes kids are just shy and take a while to feel comfortable enough to speak up. Or your local library usually has kids programs for free. I don’t have any friends either so this is what I’m going to do to help them have a life unlike their mom lol.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 27, 2018

    I agree with putting her into a sport! Soccer, dance, gymnastics, softball :)

  • Anonymous Mom
    Nov 27, 2018

    Another thing you can look into is your local YMCA may have swimming classes for her age group she may like that?

  • Gina
    Nov 27, 2018

    I second the idea of a local library. I am very shy, myself-- I imagine I would welcome an opportunity to enjoy a quiet activity but in the presence of other people. That might be a bit more approachable for her?

  • Joanna
    Nov 27, 2018

    I would start with finding her a friend in her preschool class. Ask for the class roster and advice from the teacher on who she likes to sit next to. Make a playdate with one or two kids. If she likes sports, try one. If not, don't force it because being physically awkward on top of being shy will make her hate going to the activity.

  • May
    Nov 27, 2018

    Thanks everyone for the great advice. I am a shy person too it is good to know that there are other moms like me. I suppose I don’t want her to be like me especially that she is an only child at home. She does like dancing so I will look for dancing classes. She also likes soccer and gymnastics. I will see what she likes the most. Once again thank you all :)

  • Lauren
    Nov 27, 2018

    My son is the same way. He’s 3 and doesn’t like to talk to anyone or play with other kids. I found a moms group on Facebook for my town and set up some play dates and found a playgroup for him through that. Maybe your town has one too? I don’t have any friends with kids either so it’s helped me find other moms to connect with too. I also make sure I always strike up conversations with cashiers and servers, so that he sees conversations are normal.