Posted in Activities & Enrichment, Behavior, Toddlers

Shy two year old

Anonymous

So my son tuned two on the 3rd. And we had a big party with family . He wasn’t social with any of them . Even with his cousin he wasn’t . He was on me too much and he is never like that at home . So I’m asking how to make my son more social. I can’t afford day care or those Classes that cost 120 a month. I do take him out to parks and etc.. but he stay to his self . I’m like that also but social when I need to be . So idk if he got that from me .

  • anonymous mom
    Jul 05

    My daughter is similar!! And she’s been in daycare since she was 12 weeks old so don’t feel bad, some of us are just introverts:). Maybe start with something like a play date. If his cousin is the same or similar age, ask to meet up at the park or at your house. My daughter takes forever to warm up to people and although she loves her teachers and her friends in her classroom, she’s definitely not the type to just start playing with anyone at a playground or something. She still relies on me a lot to help her socialize. You can also check your local parks and rec to see if they have smaller toddler classes, they’re usually a lot less expensive! Or the library. Story time could be a great way for your LO to ease into a new social setting. Good luck!!

  • Anonymous
    Jul 05

    Thanks for the advice

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Jul 05

    Parks, storytimes, even just grocery shopping. Honestly I wouldn’t worry about it too much, the research I’ve read says before age 3, they mostly need their primary caretakers and they play “around” other kids, not with them. Your child isn’t behind, just a normal munchkin. :)

  • Diana
    Jul 05

    What I’ve found works best for my little one is the hardest thing of all (at least for me): modeling the behavior you want your LO to emulate. I feel so strange and uncomfortable asking random kids at the park to play, and striking up conversations with strangers at the grocery store... but when I do, my little one follows suit!

  • Elle
    Jul 06

    Play groups! Check out the library and see if there are any. They may have free ones. Also check out the app meetup. Socialization is soo important.

  • Jennifer
    Jul 06

    He might just be introverted. Ease into social situations and don’t press the issue of being social just give him options to be if he wants

  • Anonymous
    Jul 07

    I work with kids of all ages and my best advice from the bottom of my heart is: if he doesn’t want to socialize, don’t make him. He might be shy or introverted or it might just be a phase. Either way, by forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to you are just going to make him hate it more and he will be uncomfortable and likely withdraw more. Your child knows what they are comfortable with and can set their own boundaries.

  • becky
    Jul 11

    My son is the same way. I found he does better with one on one playdates than big group things. Just his personality. He didn't want anyone at his 3rd birthday so we just had us there!!

  • Anonymous
    Jul 11

    Yeah for next birthday it will be small .