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Sleep help!!

Anonymous

How do I get my 10 month old to go to sleep without nursing to sleep?! I have tried keeping her in the crib but she just stands up and Cry’s the whole time. Not sure what I am doing wrong...I would like to have a date night with my hubby but can’t since my daughter only nurses to sleep. Any advice welcomed! :) thanks.

  • Rissa
    Mar 21

    I didn't last as a nursing mom but have you tried a bottle before bed. Maybe even a cry it out? Its painful for the mommas but it works to teach a routine

  • Jenn
    Mar 21

    I second cry it out. It is more painful for you than her, but it is really the only way at this point since you have to break a comfort routine and teach her how to self-soothe. I'd suggest using the Ferber method which has you go in and pat after increasingly longer periods of time (5 mins, 10 mins, 15 mins, 20 mins). This way you let them know you are still there, but that all they will get is a pat. It will take a few nights at the least, but she will get it and then she will go to bed without nursing.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 21

    So my bedtime routine is pajamas, book then nurse to sleep. Should I nurse her first then book and pajama then?

  • Rissa
    Mar 21

    I would keep the routine in the order its in then when she starts to get really sleepy put her in her crib and exit the room if she stands up to cry wait 5 mins of crying, go back lay her down and pat her butt. Then the next time increase the time by five mins , she will ethier go to bed and get tired or after 25 mins you can go back in and nurse her to sleep just keep in mind you will have to keep increasing the time she waits until she learns to go to sleep

  • E
    Mar 22

    My husband had to do the bedtime routine for about a month and it worked.

  • Becca
    Mar 22

    @Anonymous I do nurse my daughter first, then my husband reads her a book, then we pray and lay her down together. I suggest the book “Baby Wise” by Dr. Robert Bucknam.

  • Deanna
    Mar 23

    I stopped nursing to sleep around that time. I would nurse right after bath time before getting him dressed then we would read a story and I would rock him to sleep or sleepy. If he woke and wanted to nurse right away I would offer him water and if he didn’t fall asleep from the rocking (especially when first trying to wean) I just stayed in the room with him and talked lightly to him, rubbed his back, repeatedly lay him down and tell him it’s time to go to bed. Also tell your child why your not nursing to bed anymore.

  • Kacey
    Mar 23

    Like E said I had to elicit my hubby’s help for a bit to teach my daughter she didn’t need to nurse to be able to sleep. This little girl was waking up many times a night and only going back down if she nursed. We are still a work in progress but she will now put herself to sleep most of the time. She will be 10 months next week.