Posted in Sleep, Toddlers

Sleep training 13mo

I recently posted about my LO having issues sleeping lately. She’s been getting up almost 2hrs after going down and will be up for 2+hr screaming and crying. We will cave and bring her into our bed so the rest of the house and her get some sleep. She’s never slept in our bed or room until just recently when all this happened. I would like to nip it in the butt before it gets really out of hand. I would like to start sleep training but it just seems so impossible with a 13mo who likes to stand while she cries/screams in the crib. We’ve let her cry for 10-15mins straight before and she NEVER sits/lays down. Does anyone have any experience sleep training an infant at this age or one that is able to stand and walk?

  • Anonymous
    Aug 13

    We re-sleep trained around then. Just let her cry for however long you’ve decided. She’ll sit down. Or try a gentler method. But every time you take her to your bed you make it harder

  • Jackie
    Aug 13

    I do want to try the Ferber method but if it gets to be 2+hrs what do you do? She needs sleep and I don’t want her to sleep longer in the day.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 13

    Have you tried Motrin before bed? Is she teething? Also- maybe for the sake of her screaming try keeping her up a little later for the first few days to make sure she’s REALLY tired and ready to pass out.

  • Jackie
    Aug 13

    She is teething. Her bottom molars are starting to cut. We have tried medicine before bed or even during the night when she wakes (if it’s time) and that doesn’t seem to help. I’m just wondering if she’s going through separation anxiety.

  • Momof1
    Aug 13

    We hired a sleep training consultant. The way we got him to sleep was 5 mins patting him on back. 5 mins leaving him alone and continue until he falls asleep. Then you wean him off the patting and just lay him down every 10 mins or so. Then eventually make the time longer until they are sleeping on their own before you ever get there

  • K
    Aug 13

    Molars are a nightmare. It will pass. I’m no expert, are any of us? My son, 4, still needs us to sit with him as he falls asleep and wakes at night up to 3x’s a week. But, I also have twin 21 mth old twin girls that have been sleeping 11-12 hrs through since 12 mths, unless they are teething. So, I understand when people say be careful not to spoil, but I also understand that every baby is different. She may just need you right now. Do what is best for all of you. My girls still wake up sometimes, it’s usually due to being overtired. Make sure she is getting 2 day naps and if it doesn’t add up to about 4 hrs, put her to bed no longer than about 3 hrs after last nap. It will change around 15-18 mths. A great resource for sleep is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child. Wishes of sleep....😴

  • Pad
    Aug 13

    Try turning off the television or anything overly stimulating two hrs prior to bedtime

  • Aria
    Aug 26

    I’ve tried sleep training many times. I really liked the Tracy Hogg’s book which taught me all about babies and all the problems they come with. But really it does become easier well probably not as much for me as my son was diagnosed with autism and with autism, sleep is a common problem. First, find out why she is screaming or crying. Is it the crib? Do u have a night time routine? If not, get one. Night time routines pretty much tells the child when they r expected to sleep. I used to do the sleep training a lot, I did the cry it out but that didn’t work for my tenacious child who insists on crying to the point of throwing up and crying again, then I did Tracy Hogg’s suggestion of patting then as time progresses to slowly go away so they can sleep on their own and learn to calm themselves down. Though, this didn’t work for me after awhile as my child grew, he is now two years old. The reason why I say it stops working is because each time he got sick, the sleep routine stopped working because his sleep habits had to change because when sick, you would want them to sleep so they can recover so the routine is gone. So my advice is to just have a night time routine which hints to them when they should sleep: So first try to tire them out but not too tired, dinner at 5pm (large dinner but limit water), melatonin (since mine has autism per the Dr’s suggestion), night time routine of warm bath and two books after (30 min), then cuddle time (5min), then dark room but with a very small light (not enough to light up the room but enough for me to see his silhouette to see if he is sitting up on toddler bed and if he was, I make him lay down (at first, its a wrestle but they eventually get the idea, bed is for laying down and never to stand on), light is either red or orange as it helps with sleep signals apparently, he sleeps in toddler bed next to my bed so not enough for him to wake if I move, he sleeps with me as he seems to get scared of being alone in a room plus I am a quiet sleeper so I dont wake him, oh btw bedtime is at 7pm but he is normally trying to sleep at 7:30-8pm definitely asleep at 8:30pm. He sleeps on his own, toddlers normally fiddle with their blanket or the like until they nod off to sleep, I also have him in a diaper (he is two) and add a sposie with diaper so he wont leak, leaking can also be a reason why they wake up, room is always 73-74 degrees since apparently toddlers are not comfortable 75 degrees or more from what I read, light muslin blanket which happens to my son’s comfy item. Btw, my son only has one nap. I made it one nap and prior to teo and a half, we limited him to two hours. I chose to nap him at 12:30 and wakes up no matter what at 2:30pm (so lets just say they didnt nap till 1:30 then they still wake up at 2:30pm). Routine by time is the key. Same for eating, etc. apparently children like routine so I was strict with time.