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Sleep training a toddler

He just turned 2 and im fed up with people giving me/my husband a hard time for not doing it till now instead of giving any helpful tips so im asking you ladies. I understand it will be harder than training him younger. So far, he has been waking up every 2-3 hours. We pat/talk him gently back to sleep and walk away. Sometimes we give up and bring him back to bed. Bad idea? Is there a better way to put him back to sleep? Also, he sleeps in an open crib in the same room with us. Thought would be a better transition than a different room. Would it be better to just put him in a different room? or move him when he seems ready maybe in a year or so? Any and all helpful suggestions welcome!

  • Kia S.
    check_circleChild Care Provider Dec 26

    Do not let him to drink milk during the night, if he doe so. Give him a good dinner and bath before sleeping. No bottle in the crib. Monitor his napping time during the day. If he goes to day care have them to report you and don’t let him to take long nap. Some children switch the time. Likes to get sleep during the day. At his age one nap after lunch is enough. Try to put him in his own room and use music for relaxation. use a secure crib that can’t get down and walk. Make sure he is not “walking in the night” kind! Consult with his pediatrician. Having him running, dancing and playing. I mean using his energies and getting tired before bed. Waking up frequently for the healthy child eventually become a habit. it takes time to break it. If you be patient and find out what is he expecting by waking up, then the find a solution become much more easy.

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    So unfortunately I don't have any great advice for you. But I want to tell you you are doing great and there is NOTHING wrong with the sleep situation you have if it works for you! My oldest is almost 4 and we never sleep trained, he was just so stubborn, and slept so terribly, so he still sleeps with us. My 2nd went right in to bassinet and has slept like a dream for 16 months. I love the extra bonding we have had with the first through co sleeping, andI love the extra sleep, and confidence and independence my 2nd has gotten. It remains to be seen which way was 'right'

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    Could an option be to have him nap in his own room and then continue to sleep in your room at night? As an introduction to sleeping on his own?

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    My daughter sleeps in the bed with us. And honestly I love it. She has slept on or next to me since she was a newborn. I have learned to not give a sh*t when people judge me for that because it’s not their child and every child is different. This is how our family is and it gets her to sleep better than being in her own bed - yes we have tried and we are not the types to let her ‘cry it out.’ My helpful tip is ‘if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.’

  • Jess
    Dec 27

    I would transition him to his own room. My son was still waking every few hrs when he was 15 months old until we moved and he had his own bedroom. We all sleep SO much better (he's 21 months now). Way easier transition than I ever thought, and for the first time he was, and still is, able to fall asleep on his own most nights. Hope you get some sleep soon! Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    Dec 27

    Why is he waking up? Are you still nursing? The problem you’re having is that he is not falling asleep by himself. We all wake up a few times during the night but since we’re able to fall asleep alone we don’t even remember it. I started by allowing my daughter to fall asleep next to me in bed. We would just lay there in silence until she fell asleep. (I didn’t want to sleep train either) when she was able to do that I let her sleep in her own crib; it’s a process especially if you’re taking the gentler approach.