Posted in Sleep, Toddlers

Sleeping troubles

My 1.5 year old wakes up about 2-3 times a night not necessarily for a bottle but because she realizes she’s in her crib. When I put her to sleep I lay in my bed with her till she falls asleep then transfer her into her crib. She’ll be in there for a good 4 hours but then wakes up and wants to come in my bed with me (which will repeatedly happen through the night) . Her crib is in my bedroom so it’s hard for me to not grab her. I will be moving to a bigger place and she will have her own room but I’m scared she won’t ever want to sleep in there. How can I get her to stay in her crib all night without waking up so much.

  • Stephanie
    Sep 06, 2018

    You have to use some tough love here. If you want your kiddo to sleep well, you HAVE to break the habit of letting her sleep in your bed for you. Cold turkey. I encourage you to put her straight in her crib to go to bed- it will be very hard at first, but once she knows that’s her bed and that’s where she sleeps, she WILL adapt and sleep in her crib by herself! You got this mama!

  • Anna
    Sep 06, 2018

    I agree with Stephanie. The problem is she is completely asleep once you put her in the crib, so she wakes up scared and confused. Put her down drowsy so she’s still awake, she needs to self soothe or she will be sleeping with you forever!

  • Stephanie
    Sep 06, 2018

    Cold turkey was def not right for my family. She would wake up, old enough to understand I should be there because she was scared, but not old enough to understand why I wouldn't come to her. So we did kind of the opposite. She transitioned into a toddler bed early (and is now in a Montessori style twin) because it was more like a bed...what she was used to from sleeping with us. I would get to her immediately when she'd wake up and stay with her to sleep. Eventually she realized I was close and would come. She still wakes up every now and then but I hear, "Hello!" and "Mama?" instead of screams and crying. Start with nap time, follow your gut. You aren't doing anything weird or wrong by staying close to your baby.

  • Alejandra
    Sep 06, 2018

    I started with nap time putting my son in his crib then I made it a bit fun for him and changed his bedding to something he liked example his favorite tv cartoon character he was excited and asked to be put in the crib (toddler bedding fits a crib size mattress) it takes a lot of power not to give in when you hear your child crying but I also used the super nanny method lol first time I would lay him down I’ll tell him goodnight I love you give him a kiss and if he was crying and have a fit standing on the crib I would just get up lay him down with out saying a word , sometimes it took longer than others but eventually he got it and now everybody is more comfortable in our own beds

  • Katelyn
    Sep 06, 2018

    She's waking up because she's confused that how she fell asleep is not the same when she wakes up. It takes a child a bit to figure out how thet got where they are and don't go back to sleep. The best way I've heard it explained is, if you fall asleep with a pillow then someone in the night takes it away, when you wake up you'll stay awake to find it and go back to sleep. My best advice is to just be consistent. If you want her to sleep on her own she may need to put herself to sleep alone so she may do so when she wakes up in the night. Or, if you want to help her, then probably stay with her throughout the night. That way she won't wake up confused and will go back to sleep faster. We did sleep training for night time and she no longer needs help going back to bed. But, we co-sleep for naps. It's whatever you feel comfortable doing. Sorry for the long post lol

  • Vanessa
    Sep 08, 2018

    I agree with tough love on this one. If it doesn’t stop now it may just get worse :(