Posted in Family Life, Siblings, Teenagers

So anyone noticed a complete change in family dynamics when one child goes to a friends house for a day? (Teenage child)

  • Diane
    Apr 09, 2018

    This is a window into how you will see it even more when one goes off to college.

  • Diane
    Apr 09, 2018

    Oh George, I just read your previous post about your son. I can only imagine how much focus and energy it takes to deal with him so of course your family dynamics will change depending on whether he is in the home or home alone without other siblings for the day. Even in a family without major behavioral issues, the family dynamics changes when children are in the home for the day or over a friend's house- although not to the same degree as in your home. I wish you the best as you navigate this road with your son and family.

  • George
    Apr 09, 2018

    Funny thing is, I feel a little guilty because the house is so much more relaxed with just one kid home that I start thinking of a bunch of cool things to do that I don’t think about or dread the idea of doing with these two or three because of the guaranteed arguments.

  • Diane
    Apr 09, 2018

    Can you plan and schedule to spend a day or afternoon once a month with just one child. You and that child could decide together what to do. And each child knows they get their one on one time so maybe that might even help lessen arguments at other times since you can remind them they will have a day they don't need to compromise with their sibling.

  • George
    Apr 09, 2018

    I can with two of them but the third is always saying we can’t afford it, I guess I have talked about money too much around her so now she is too sensitive to spending money

  • Diane
    Apr 09, 2018

    Something even as simple as an afternoon going to the public library to explore the books, videos and magazines together and taking a walk to explore the neighborhood might help that one not worry about spending money to spend alone time with you.

  • David
    Apr 24, 2018

    George: don’t feel guilty. Having anybody in your life with special needs is difficult. There is nothing wrong with enjoying a quiet moment or thinking about the things you could do when you are not required to be helping them. Parenting is both a wonderful and incredibly difficult job. And like any other job, we all deserve a little vacation (or just a sick day) from time to time.