So I’ve been back at work for about 3 weeks now. People there keep asking me if it gotten easier or if it nice to be back. I just want to scream at them No, I hate being away from my Baby Boy! Other people don’t keep up with his schedule and he doesn’t like me being gone! Lucky my Mom is keeping him for me right now, but that is only through July. I don’t think we will be able to afford daycare. I know he and I are both getting used to it but I still hate it and am super annoyed and bored when I’m at work. We are starting a small business and the plan is for me to run it from home eventually but we are so stressed with money right now it feels like it may never happen. Any advice on transferring from working to staying at home?

  • Nadia
    Feb 17, 2018

    When I was at home, I longed to go back to work. Maybe you can go part-time?

  • Katie
    Feb 17, 2018

    I can honestly say that when I was on leave I was the happiest I’ve ever been and have little to no desire to go back to work. Even with all the adjustments to our new little family. Part time might work better. I don’t know that my bosses would go for it though. Especially right now. We are in a busy season.

  • Cathy
    Feb 17, 2018

    I felt just as you did. I quit my full time job as a daycare director - and my son was able to come with me - and just couldn’t cut it. I even tried part time. You won’t know until you try it. Even with trusting other people with my son, KNOWING these teachers I couldn’t fathom someone else spending more time with my son than me. Sometimes I even missed out on bedtime, not seeing him at all during the day. Broke my heart. We had to make some cutbacks and I’ve had to work hard to keep him busy but I love being home. It won’t be forever and I will go back to work eventually. You’ve got to do what is best for your family and remember, they are only little once and it’s time you can never get back.

  • Margarita
    Feb 17, 2018

    I would just remind yourself that no matter what happens, it always seems to work out. I ended up quitting my job bc after calculating the costs of daycare, I would have been breaking even if I continued to work and pay for daycare. My boyfriend has a good job and we were worried about the finance. We had to cut back on a few things, but it was all worth it. I also agree no one can keep the schedule as you do and your kid will only be young for so long, you can never get that time back. It was the best decision I have made. Good luck to you and your family. I’m sure everything will work out

  • Teresa
    Feb 17, 2018

    I quit my job. We have no family that can help us and we didn't trust anyone enough to RAISE our babies for us. Paying for child care wouldn't have been worth it. We wouldve paid practically the same amount i was making. We lived paycheck to paycheck for 4 years. I had 2 boys in 2 years. My little one is now 2 and talks and i can work knowing he can tell me if any thing happens to him. My older one is in school. And we are all in a much better place!! It is HARD being a stay at home mom. But I did what was best for my babies and the troubles were just for a little while! Ultimately, do what is best for your babies and your family.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Feb 17, 2018

    I dropped my first child off at daycare at three months and was actually content (I won’t say happy) going back to work. I missed him but I worked half the week from home And felt like I had a perfect balance. But as he got older I realized how much I wanted to be with him all the time even though I loved my job. I think you need to find the right spot in your heart at the right time. Being a stay at home mom Allows you to find new ways to save money and you can always find contracting gigs to do various things. Or even babysit a similar age child (when your child is a toddler). It’s all doable. But it doesn’t mean it won’t be scary. I cried on the way home from my last day at work. I didn’t cry at all the day I dropped him off. It was scarier to only be a mom to me. But now, I know it was the best choice I ever made for my family. We are all happier and healthier because of it. But definitely not as financially comfortable.

  • Tara
    Feb 17, 2018

    This is an interesting post, as like Nadia, I also sometimes fantasised about having part-time work to go back to. We are moving countries, and with my work, we’d just about break even at a daycare... plus, I sincerely believe in raising my own children, and we are amongst those who are making some sacrifices to earn this privilege. AND I miss the personal space I had with work, adult company, financial rewards as well as acknowledgement for work well done etc. I find being a SAHM to be a thankless job, as well as a privilege. My mother was in full time work, and as a child, I never felt I had enough of her. This has played a large part in my wanting to be more present for my own children. And, I also struggle to ‘only be a mom’ (quoting from above post).

  • Ava
    Feb 18, 2018

    I was supposed to go back to work but I recently decided to quit and stay home with my little one. I realized he's only going to he little once so money can wait!

  • Teresa
    Feb 18, 2018

    Yes!!! They are only little ONCE!!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 21, 2018

    I'm in a very similar situation, but the anxiety of leaving baby to go back to work caused me to quit 3 days before I was scheduled to return. My husband and I are taking steps for a business of our own that will make more money than we were paid (if it's successful) and will allow both of us more time with our son, working from home and taking turns spending time with him. It surprised me how unwilling I was to leave him to go work, and it's pushed us to do what we've only talked about doing for 5+ years. I say go for it, you'll never know if you don't try!

  • Enaile
    Mar 05, 2018

    I chose to work part time. I can stay at home with my kids during the day and in the evening i work. Its a little bit hard but at least i am the one taking care of them and its worth it