Posted in Behavior, Child Care, Milestones & Development, Toddlers

So my son is 2 years old (Aug 29) and he says words but most words are not as "clear"

Anonymous

He just started Daycare. This will be his second week. The first 4 days he didn't cry at all. Everyday after that he has been crying. This is his first time in daycare and really being around other kids period. I dont know if he is crying because he is not used to it ( even tho the first 4 days he didnt cry) or if he is crying because of the teacher(s). HELP! Because as i stated he doesn't really talk much and when he tries to tell you something its like a whole bunch of words he made up LOL. I don't know if i should take him out the daycare or leave him.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Right !

  • Alicia
    Oct 03

    Omg the same thing happened with my daughter. First week, no tears.....After that she was crying. I was worried that something happened that made her not want to be there. She talks, but not enough to communicate to me why the tears now. But about another week went by and she adjusted. Good luck

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Alicia YES! He doesn't talk enough for me to know why the tears . so you think I should give it another week ? And see then

  • Shal
    Oct 03

    Trust your gut, it's your best indicator when they are that little. I have a 2 yr old daughter who wasn't happy around her new teacher.. I don't believe that anything bad was happening, but just that the teacher was not a warm and comforting person. She had been in daycare since she was 3 months so it was crappy for us to see a negative change. We switched schools to try something else. Keep in mind that toddler rooms can be very hectic so you want to look for a place that has enough teachers to deal with the chaos!

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Shal SAME! One of his teachers I just got a different vibe from .. I dont think she is a very comforting person. The other teacher is out for surgery this week and i feel like may be its the teacher ( that is not so comforting) . how did your little one do when you switched schools ?

  • Shal
    Oct 03

    We're on day 3 today and she LOVES it so far, I was going to keep her home on my day off for movies and snuggled but she was whining to go haha! That is a FIRST. Fingers crossed, I know no where is perfect, but so long as she's happy to go.

  • Stacey
    Oct 03

    That transition can be really hard in a lot of kids but it might be worth it to touch base with the director or assistant director about your concerns. Most daycares take pictures throughout the day as well. If they could take and send you pictures of him playing and having fun it would probably put your mind at ease.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Stacey ! Your right i didnt think of asking them to send pictures ..first time mom and first time putting him in daycare so I just call through out the day and check on him thinking that was the only thing I could do

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    I would say it’s the teacher...give it a few more days but do not be afraid to talk to the director either. Voice your concerns. My daughter had one teacher that I didn’t like very much, she was colder and not as nurturing to the kids. I couldn’t put my finger on it but I was t a fan. Turns out she ended up having a case opened against her and was fired because another teacher caught her yelling at a bunch of crying babies (we were on vacation when it happened but I hate to think she may have been yelling at my baby at times too). My daughter was 8 months old at the time.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Anonymous ..oh no! And yes you had your gut feeling ! Same with me its something about this ONE teacher like when i would call to check on him .." Hey was did he do when I left" her response is " good" that's ALL she ever says is good I have to go in depth like ok did he continue to cry for a long time did he eat his lunch how was he during nap time . And the reason i was hesatant on saying something to the director because I didnt want them to take it the wrong way and she go back to the teacher and now the teacher feels some type of way and takes it out on my son. You know what i mean ?

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    I know EXACTLY what you mean. You don’t want some retribution against your son because you tried to make things better for him. However if you see the behavior continuing only on days when this one teacher is present you should speak up. Also make friends with other parents in the room and see if they feel the same way. This teacher that was fired from our center had worked there for 6 years before the incident occurred and was reported so years of service is also not a good indicator!! She was always really good if I called to check in on her, but would do things that would really piss me off, like I would drop my daughter off early some mornings and it would be just her and maybe 1-2 other babies and my daughter would fuss as she put her on a boppy and right in front of me she would say to her, “oh stop! You know I can’t hold you all day!” Umm wtf...of course you can’t hold her all day but maybe hold her till she stops fussing!! Or I would go pick her up at the end of the day and she would say, “oh <baby> didn’t have a very good day.” And id day why?? And her answer was, “she expected too much 1:1 time.” Well she’s a baby and I’m paying $1600 a month to send her here so maybe freakin give her one minute of 1:1 time every half hour so she doesn’t just lay around all day!! Wtf I will say that things changed for the better immediately when the teacher left and now she’s in a room where the teachers are amazing and when I drop her off she blows me a kiss and is like, “get out of here, mom. I’ve got business to attend to.” Lol One other thing is that most centers are now big operations like kindercare, etc. if you don’t like your directors response, ask them for their bosses name and contact information. Tell them you want to express your concerns in confidence and if you detect any retribution against your son you will be taking your complaints up the chain of command.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Oh, also, does your center have a ap that you can download and get updates and pictures throughout the day?? If not suggest this to your director, a lot of centers offer this now in place of the daily report!! It’s a great way to check in and see how they’re doing. If the teacher isn’t putting pics in throughout the day tell them you want them. We have this now and I just got a picture sent through the ap of my daughter painting a paper plate pumpkin and earlier they sent a pic of her eating her breakfast, haha.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    Ohmg ! That is so crazy ! Yes like and she is a baby i know your not supposed to baby the child but atleast comfort them until the child is not fussy anymore i absolutely agree with u!! The teacher was reported before for something else and nothing ? ( until obviously she got fired) poor baby ! Im glad they fired her and now your little one is comfortable with the new teachers. Some "teachers" are there for all the wrong reasons smh. Yes so the other teacher will return next week i guess i will wait until next week to see if he still crying like he is.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    No app but i def. Will suggest because that is AMAZING

  • Julie
    Oct 03

    I don’t think she was ever reported before the incident where she was fired. But the word on the street is that it was the end of the day and another teacher was coming into the room to relieve this teacher for a bathroom break and as she walked in there were 3 babies and 2 of them were crying and the teacher witnessed her yelling at the babies and saying, “will you just shut up all you do is cry!” And then the third baby started to cry because of her yelling so the teacher immediately went and reported it directly to social services and didn’t even involve the director. I was like, “you go girl!” Because it probably takes a lot of guts to speak up in that setting and do the right thing ya know?? We were on vacation when it happened and when we returned she was gone and I was just informed that an investigation had taken place and she was let go as a result. Then I started talking to other parents and pieced the story together.

  • Julie
    Oct 03

    Ha, well I’m no longer anonymous. lol

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    That is really crazy like I just wish if people didnt want to have the patience or really care for the kids they just work somewhere else

  • Julie
    Oct 03

    My daughter goes to a bright horizons center and they use brightwheel. It is really nice.

  • Julie
    Oct 03

    But there are lots of different aps that the center can use....my cousin works at a kindercare and they use tadpoles, and a friend goes to another center and they use one called HiMama which given that we are living in 2018 and not 1988 should probably actually be called HiParent 😂 lol.

  • Pamela
    Oct 05

    Ask his teachers what he’s like during the day. My daughter cried every time we left her at preschool and church nursery but they all said after we left she cried for a few minutes and then was fine.