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Social skills and confidence building in a 5 year old

My 5-year-old appears to be socially awkward even in a known environment. She shows very low self-esteem and is not open about her feelings to us so hard to help. She starts kindergarten soon so I want to be able to help her build confidence. Tried zillion play dates, exposures to activities and people, talking with her but nothing seems to help. Any suggestions?

  • Anonymous
    Feb 06

    Sometime doing too much can overwhelm them and be consistent with the places and/or the people. That way that place/person is familiar to her and she feels comfortable enough to open up.

  • MOM
    Feb 06

    I had similar issues with my 3 year old initially when she started preschool she was very shy with her teachers also not giving appropriate answers instead nodding her head for everything. But we made her more active by keeping her busy with extra activities like dancing, ice skating this way they will socialize more with new friends.

  • Lexi
    Feb 13

    Does she seem nervous/anxious or just more reserved than other children? Lots of nonjudgmental positive reinforcement and trust building can be helpful. Point out small accomplishments; for example: "you zipped your coat up!" "That was hard for you and you did it!" Observational statements instead of "good job" go a lot farther when building a child's confidence bc it teaches them to recognize behaviors and make their own judgments about how what they did made them feel. It can take time to create this new habit, but it works!

  • Anonymous
    Feb 13

    Thanks!!