Posted in Behavior, For Dads, Preschoolers

Son wants nothing to do with me (only mommy or others). Any tips?

  • Stacie
    Oct 22, 2018

    I may be a mom, but I’ve noticed that the more my husband initiates things with our son (playing, reading books, chasing, dancing, etc.) the more my son begins to initiate with his dad as well.

  • Katrina
    Oct 22, 2018

    Are there any fun activities you've established as yours? Or could establish? My husband is the wrestler and roughhouser - I don't like playing that way, and he and 2yo love it, so it firmly cemented dad as a cool person.

  • Amanda
    Oct 22, 2018

    My husband is in the same boat but it’s with our daughter. She is a mommy’s baby 200% and could care less about daddy. Not sure why. My husband just holds, feeds, and talks to her as much as he can so hoping she will out grow it sometime cuz I need a break from time to time.

  • Birdie
    Oct 22, 2018

    My daughter is the same way. Daddy has to fight for his time. I have to be completely away just so he can get attention. Let baby momma have a whole day to herself at least once a week to establish daddy-daughter time. Then you can develop your own relationship.

  • Jesse
    Oct 22, 2018

    I think Stacie said it best. I would add that engaging with him away from mom with just the two of you is helpful. You can’t place any expectations on your interactions either. Your relationship will naturally develop through the efforts you put into your son.

  • Chandler
    Oct 22, 2018

    I can relate in a way. I'm a stepfather to both of my wife's children and my stepdaughter is the closest to me (being the oldest). My stepson is very attached to my wife. What I've found is that, as long as my stepson continues to notice my fatherly consistency, he will slowly become reliant on me for things that he enjoys (like playing) but will always rely on the my wife for emotional comfort and help in times of distress. It's a matter of patience.

  • Ariel
    Oct 28

    My son is the opposite. All he wants is Daddy and it makes me sad

  • Rando
    Nov 05

    Sometimes a child can go through times where they want one over the other. When you are with your kid be sure to be stress free, be sure eye contact is made and start from there. Also feeding them as well as changing them helps bonding. Always talk to them when you do all those things, stay calm and interact in ways they find smiles. When they seem in distress be sure to keep doing those things and they will feel comfortable more so also. Be fun, be interactive and hang in there.

  • Dresean
    Nov 11

    My twins swap off parents all the time. For the first six months the littlest twin would go to nobody but me, her sister would only be comforted by dad. Now they’ve swapped!

  • Tino
    Nov 20

    Chandler and Rando have put it best. It’s more so a waiting game and practice of patience. Hang in there. Be present and attentive. That means being in the moment as your child is exploring and witnessing your child develop their own personality (dont miss it by being distracted by anything else). Furthermore, pay attention to the things that spark your child’s attention and curiously. The more you learn, the more you have leverage to approach with knowledge. It gets easier as time goes, as long as you remain consistent with those two. Wise up. Goodluck!

  • Ash
    Nov 30

    My son goes through phases. Like Stacie says, be attentive of their likes but also share your hobbies with them too. Get them excited about what excites you.