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Son won’t poop on the potty

My 24mo old son is only five days into potty training with the Oh Crap! method. Things are going WAY better than I thought. He hasn’t had a pee accident since the first day. But pooping is a whole different story. He refuses to poop on the potty.. I think he’s scared because it’s such a new feeling. I can recognize when he has to poop and will tell him, “I know you have to poop, let’s go sit on the potty”. He refuses so I tell him, “okay, we will try when you’re ready” and, “remember, poop goes in the potty” (as is suggested in the book). Right now, he’s either holding his poop until his nap or nighttime diaper or he will have an accident in his pants (which doesn’t seem to bother him at all). I’ve also tried giving him privacy, leaving him in the bathroom to pee and poop by himself... it works for pee but never poop. He has never gone to a hiding place to poop, with or without a diaper, but I have tried moving the potty to a dark “secret” corner of the house to no avail. I’m trying to be patient and give him a stress-free, no-pressure environment, but cleaning poop from his pants is already getting old. I didn’t really find any other advice in the Oh Crap! book... anything you all have tried (besides bribery) that has worked to make your child more comfortable pooping into a potty?

  • Anonymous
    Jul 03

    I didn't have a problem with poop, but in an attempt to make it not be a problem I would set him up with a t.v. show, toys, books, food 🤮 whatever made him sit long enough to get comfy. The author of that book also has podcasts (plural) and a blog which we scoured for answers to things the book didn't cover. Hope it's a short phase for you! And he's probably not bothered by sitting in it because that's what he did when he was in diapers

  • Anonymous
    Jul 03

    Oh and I've read about some kids considering poop to be a part of their body so getting rid of it in a toilet is like getting rid of a part of them. So try taking him when you or your partner poops and let him see it in the toilet, and then let him flush so he sees it's normal to get rid of it.

  • Sara
    Jul 03

    Thanks for your response! We have tried bringing him with us when we poop... it doesn’t seem to click with him haha! But I will try the tv show + snacks while on the potty!! 🤞🏻🤞🏻

  • Lauren
    Jul 08

    My son was terrified of pooping on the potty until he was almost 4... needless to say he eventually learned on his own! We just decided to stop putting diapers on him at night time because he would always wait to poop as soon as we put it on him to sleep... he didn’t poop for like 3 days until he couldn’t avoid it anymore, then he finally sat down and just did it!

  • Sara
    Jul 08

    Thanks Lauren! I don’t know if I can wait two more years, but I’ll definitely try taking away the diapers during naps and nights to try and force the issue :)

  • Geena
    Jul 09

    That was my problem, too, but then i just keep bringing him to the potty when i see some signs he needed to go and when it’s poop, i say the same thing “poop is in the potty!” “Thank you for pooping in the potty” everything exaggerated every time. I’d also bring something he likes to make him sit long enough. Though it took days, it went well.

  • Brittany
    Jul 18

    My oldest was terrified to poop In his little potty. He was afraid it would touch his bottom. We got a 2nd potty seat that snapped onto the big toilet and he would sit on it to go poop because it wasn’t as close to his bottom to touch.