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Speech and Developmental Delay at 20 months

Hi! My son was just diagnosed with a speech and developmental delay. He is 20 months and only says a few words. He also has a little bit of a developmental delay because he can’t feed himself with a spoon yet, drink from a straw, or drink from an open cup. Does anyone have any experience with this type of delay? How long does it take to catch up? Did they seem to be at the same level as the other kids when they went to PK4? Thank you!

  • Victoria
    Mar 23

    So the development I can see. Does your son have ANY words yet? Because I thought that my son had a speech delay too, he turns 2 next month and his only words are mama, dada, bus, baba, cheese, roar and woof and ball. But when I called when he was like 18 months old he was only saying mama, baba, and dada. I had talked to his doctor and the nurse advice line and they told me they only look for 5 words by the time they reach 2. She said I could see a speech therapist (I had to see one when I was a toddler, that’s why I was concerned) but that he was doing okay for his age

  • Anonymous
    Mar 23

    At 20 months, my son couldn’t drink from an open cup without help or eat from a spoon without help. He could use a fork though. Now he’s 26 months and still needs help with a spoon and open cup but he has made improvements. Also.. at 24 months his language just started to accelerate. Most parents I talk to say that a switch just flips when they turn 2 and just start talking away. Our Dr was not concerned at all at his 2 yr appointment in regards to his inability to use a spoon or open cup on his own.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 23

    My son is 19 months and is he same way. He can drink from a straw only if it’s one of those spill proof ones ( I recommend the grab and go one and let him figure it out) my son still has problems of keeping in his mouth sometimes. It’s funny Bc the first three sips he gets until the last on lol it falls out of this month. On his words he says mama (sometimes) dada dog pop-pop I think he says three or tree. And like hi and bye. And the spoon part. He just play with it. He knows what it’s use for so eventually he will learn so if he know what it’s for and does the motion for it then he will learn how to do it.

  • B
    Mar 24

    Don’t compare your kid to others. We aren’t doctors and if yours says your kid needs help, awesome that you know now. My nephew had a gross motor delay and went to physical therapy. It helped soooo much. He’s in first grade now and you’d never know. Get the info and they can start speech and physical therapy. Should be free. And easy. And worst case he didn’t need it and ends up catching up quickly.

  • Momof1
    Mar 24

    He actually says a lot of words just not consistently. He will say it once and never again. He only says four words consistently which are dada hi bye and cheese. I think they said under six needed speech therapy. I know different doctors have different measurements. I just wanted to see if anyone has actually done speech therapy and gotten good results. It seems like a hard thing to teach someone so young

  • Joanna
    Mar 24

    Pediatricians should be giving screenings like the Denver or Ages and Stages Questionnaire. And that's where it seems as simple as, does he have 6 words. When you meet with the speech therapist, physical therapist and/or occupational therapist, they will give an exam and recommend treatment. They look for a lot more than 6 words. Tongue movement, sound formation, pointing, nonverbal communication. And usually require a hearing test too. My son started speech therapy at 20 months. I thought it was worthwhile. His speech improved and I appreciated the advice and the hour of entertainment too.

  • Karla
    Mar 28

    Every child develops differently. You might see a catch up by age 3, if you don’t see any improvements talk to his doctor about getting help. My son had a language and speech delay, and is doing better.