Posted in Holidays, Marriage & Partnership

Spouse does not enjoy holidays

Anonymous

Does anyone else deal with this? When we first met he seemed to be interested in holidays, bdays, bbqs, etc. Now he will use any excuse to avoid them and even on Christmas morning, Easter morning he just lays in bed. Feeling alone and I don’t want to be miserable and miss out on all of these sweet memories with my little ones, but I feel like he makes my holidays miserable since he doesn’t enjoy them.

  • Anonymous
    May 26

    You're not alone. My husband is terrible about this! I constantly tell him he has no sense of whimsy as he just sees every holiday as "just another day" - nothing is ever a "special" occasion. Usually I just go ahead and make plans for myself and my son and either drag him along (if he isn't bitching too much) or go by ourselves. It's not worth us missing out on doing fun things just because he doesn't want to. Usually it's easier to do our own thing without it, keeps the misery quotient down. I hate that he misses out, but that's on him.

  • B
    May 26

    Have you asked him about it? Sounds like you guys could find a compromise by talking about what’s most important to you both

  • Anonymous
    May 26

    We have talked and he doesn’t seem to think it’s an issue. Sorry you are also going thru this

  • B
    May 26

    Marriage is about compromise. It doesn’t matter if he doesn’t see it as a problem if you do. Think about the bare minimum you need to be happy, and the max. And then talk it through and meet somewhere between his ideal of nothing and yours.

  • Anonymous
    May 26

    He may not like holidays but not everything is about him. I'd imagine it makes it hard for the kids to enjoy the holidays when you have that negative energy lurking around.

  • Anonymous
    May 26

    He never can see that he makes everything about him. Literally every decision has been about whats best for him and its true the kids don’t enjoy the holidays as much. I may have to think about leaving but that’s not ideal either.