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Squeamish after labor

I am a little nervous that I am going to be grossed out by the baby being bloody / gooey when she is first delivered. Is anyone else squeamish and have experience with this? Did you hold the baby right after or wait for her to be cleaned off?

  • Feiya
    Jun 12

    What I noticed more so was that I couldn't properly hold the baby because the cord was still attached (maybe other cords are longer?). I was basically holding on to her on my stomach/chest while the nurses vigorously rubbed her down. She was mostly covered by the receiving blankets. They told me she was pooping on me and I couldn't tell at all, they are pros at cleaning. She seemed pretty clean to my eye. Have them re-wrap her in a new receiving blanket though after they're done with the eye goop and weighing, that's the only thing later that I noticed had some crusty blood on it.

  • Kristin
    Jun 12

    Believe me... the last thing you'll be thinking about is being squimish

  • MaryAnn
    Jun 12

    Years later I still cry my eyes out when I see a birth on tv. This will truly be one of (if not the best) moments of your entire life seriously. Try to stay in the moment and try to take it all in and enjoy every second of it. Get pictures and capture your faces and reactions for you and your husband to look at forever! You will instantly forget the pain and the first day or two will be a beautiful dream!

  • Susy
    Jun 12

    You won’t be able to see anything if you’re on your back. They don’t hand the baby to you right away they check make sure everything looks good and wipe them down

  • K
    Jun 12

    Yep I agree with previous posts..I was so relieved he was finally here and healthy I didn't care at all :) good luck!

  • Isaac
    Jun 12

    It sounds like your mind is trying to prepare you for what is coming... birthing classes helped my wife and I feel prepared and calmer. You might also try focusing its energy on things that will make you feel more prepared or accomplished going into your delivery... study swaddling techniques, or breastfeeding (if that applies to your plan), or pain management and meditation. There are so many other things about birthing/parenting to occupy your mind with, and as many have already said you're probably not going to care about the temporary/washable state of your baby. Congrats and hope everything goes smoothly!

  • Katie
    Jun 12

    I was actually feeling the same way as you are and was worried I wouldn’t want to touch my baby right after birth... but truly once you have your baby you will not even think about it. At least for me, I wasn’t even thinking about that. All I wanted to do was hold my baby. I didn’t even want them to take him away to clean him. But honestly if you still feel kinda grossed out by it, don’t feel bad. I’m sure you’re not alone on your feelings:). Good luck!

  • Brittany
    Jun 12

    They put my son on my chest immediately. I was too overwhelmed with love and relief to even think about it being gross.

  • Em
    Jun 12

    My sister gets a little woozy at the sight of her own blood. They tried to put the baby on her stomach right away, but she turned white and my mom warned them she might pass out. Also remember that the vernix is really really helpful to the baby. The world is so big and new and full of challenges they didn’t have inside of you. That’s why they won’t bathe the baby until hours later.

  • Veronica
    Jun 13

    I’m a bit squeamish as well, but when both my kids were born I was so overjoyed that my babies were finally born that I didn’t even have time to think about it. Besides most drs try and clean them up pretty well before you get to hold them. I think you will do just fine.

  • Lucas
    Jun 13

    It won’t as soon as you see your baby

  • Joanne
    Jun 13

    I was on the same boat and I didn’t notice my son was cleaned while I held him. It’s easy to think about before and after but in the moment it’s the least important thing in the world

  • Paulette
    Jun 13

    Babys worth the pain!

  • CTmomx2
    Jun 14

    Lol. These are the posts you write before you go through labor. After you will be surprised you had the time/energy/whatever to come up with these concerns. 🤗 enjoy the ride. Nothing will happen the way you expect!

  • Kimberly
    Jun 14

    When I had my son, they put him directly on my chest, goop and all... I was horrified and totally grossed out... that said, I really didn’t get that maternal instinct until several months after his birth. With my daughter, 14.5 years later, it didn’t both me as much. To this day, my son is totally a mamas boy and my daughter is a daddy’s girl. Lol

  • Whitney
    Jun 14

    Hormones are a magical thing! You won’t even notice.

  • Raqui
    Monday

    My birth was on the dry side, wasn’t even messy. You’ll be so happy and shocked baby is out that you won’t care about anything else.

  • Teddy
    Tuesday

    Okay, so my first baby was born very fast (10 pushes) and I had a 3rd degree tear and there was blood everywhere. She shat all over me as thy laid her on me- 9 months worth of sticky black meconium poo that I didn’t get to wash off me for 2 days after. They did not wash her or anything, just handed her to me. WHEN THEY DID MY HUSBAND AND I BALLED CAUSE SHE WAS THE MOST BEAUTIFUL CREATURE IN THE WHOLE WORLD! It was glorious and lovely and amazing and nothing else mattered. Then later we were looking at pictures of her birth and we were like “omg she looks like a nasty little alien that just crawled out of a sewer! How could we be so blind to it all??” Then I had my second baby and though it was a bit “cleaner” of a birthing experience, the same thing happened. Your hormone-flooded brain (your partner’s too if they’re there) won’t notice a thing out of place. It will all seem like glittery rainbows of magical perfection. ...Then the epidural will wear off and the hormones will calm down and you’ll be in agony. I’d worry about the pain more than the goo. 😋😉

  • George
    49m ago

    If you can watch Game of Thrones you should be prepared.