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Stranger danger

My daughter won’t let anyone hold except me, my boyfriend and my mother. How do I gently get her like other people then us. I have so many people who will watch her whenever we need a break but she cries if she doesn’t see us. How did you handle this situation?

  • Cathy
    Dec 02

    How old is your daughter?

  • Wenonah
    Dec 02

    @cathy 7 months

  • Anonymous
    Dec 02

    My son was like that for longest. I didn’t force it at all. I’d let ppl try to hold him, but if he kept crying uncontrollably then I’d take him back. It’s normal for babies to be most comfortable with primary caregivers. He’s 2.5yo now and will gladly tell me Bye Mommy and not think about me for hours! Lol. My 5mo is getting to her clingy stage now, and again I’m just letting it run its course. Not forcing at all. Good luck !

  • Cathy
    Dec 02

    This is a normal phase of separation anxiety. The best suggestion I can give is to keep it consistent with the people she will be around the most. If it’s a situation where you are leaving her with a sitter prepare extra time for you to hang around until it’s time to leave. This too shall pass.

  • Destinee
    Dec 02

    Totally normal. My daughter is just getting over this now and will let most people hold her. I just didn’t force it. She started going to others on her own time. She used to burst into tears anytime her grandpa even looked at her, but yesterday she spent the whole afternoon wanting to be held by him. It will get better

  • Christa
    Dec 02

    At 7 months they start picking favorites and start developing separation anxiety. This will change, just assure her that she’s fine, and that you’re still around close by! Sometimes just let them hold her as long as she’s completely comfortable and as soon as she starts showing lack of comfort, take her back. Give her something that smells like you while they hold her. We never really had that problem, because we let everyone hold our son when they asked, and just didn’t show an anxiety about it. If you expect she’s going to panic and cry about Whom is holding her, she’s going to do it! I guess it’s kinda just how you approach it too.