Posted in Behavior, Safety, Toddlers

Suggestions/advice needed on how to handle a two year old runner...

Anonymous

My son thinks it’s funny/a game... or sometimes he just wants to get away. He does this in stores, in the front yard (towards the street), and so on. I know he’s 2 and curious... but am I suppose to constantly chase him? Do I not let him walk on his own? I have a backpack leash I’m willing to try out... just didn’t know if anyone held the key to make a toddler listen and not run off.

  • Siedah
    Apr 11

    My daughter is the same way. She has a big brother to thank LOL! I know she's pretty independent BUT I keep her in the cart at all times. My almost 5 year old son will either ride in the basket or push with me. Sometimes he'll try to walk away from me and I'll pretend I'm leaving him. At that point, he'll run back my way. If you want to use the backpack method, go ahead and try it.

  • PK
    Apr 11

    What worked for my son is the backpack leash actually. He hated it so much that I told him that as long as he stays close to me then we don’t need it. We used it maybe twice. He listens for the most part. When he does it again, I will grab and give him one warning. “If you run off again then I will put you in the cart/stroller/hold you.” Also before we step into the store or wherever we are and there are boundaries, I will be clear with rules. So rules first, one warning, then the consequence. We go through phases... he will be really good for a few days, then be really bad and then I have to go through with the consequence and then he will be good again for a few days. Also give them an option! When crossing a street or walking through a parking lot, I let me son choose if he wants to hold my hand or have me hold him.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 11

    My son went through this phase when I was 7+ months pregnant 🙄 we did the leash on a few occasions, if it was in a store and there weren't a lot of people I would let him run up and down an aisle, but he has always been pretty good about not straying too far. We would also play red light green light so when he runs from me I start yelling red light and he thinks it's hilarious and stops, and then when I catch up we keep playing.

  • PK
    Apr 11

    Red light, green light!! That’s such a great idea!! Stealing! 😁

  • Anonymous
    Apr 15

    We saw a developmental pediatrician for this issue. It started at two and continued into three (and beyond). We were playing red light/green light for practice as others mentioned, but pediatrician strongly advised against a game as this age group won’t differentiate with what happens on street. She said use one, short word “stop!” or “freeze!” And practice in “real” (but safe) situations. Also, give choice like stay with mommy or go in the stroller. We still struggle, but figured I’d pass on what I have learned in case it works for you.