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Super anxious about tomorrow

Anonymous

MIL asked to baby sit, we have a 16 month old and 5 month old. Both require a lot of attention and can get jealous too. She wants to take them too the zoo, (it’s super hot outside so I told her I can add her to our aquarium pass for a day, she still insisted on zoo, and the forecast shows thunderstorm all this week) we asked if anyone else was gonna go with her (her fiancé, etc) she said no it’ll just be her. I don’t even go out alone with just the kids and I because it can be very demanding. She said she’ll have the double stroller. My toddler does not want to sit in it all the time she wants to walk and play and my 5 month old likes to be held after a while too. MIL says she’s raised her kids she knows how to do it. I almost don’t even want her to watch the kids now. I’ve told DH I’m uncomfortable if it’s just gonna be her and the kids alone, he’s tried to talk to her and she says the same thing. I don’t know what to say or do.

  • B
    Jul 06

    Kids are better for other people. Let her try it. Worst case it fails and she comes home. Pack her lots of snack and water. If it is crazy hot, tell you husband to insist no zoo and she can pick elsewhere.

  • Raji
    Jul 06

    Ya if it’s really hot and you don’t want your kids at the zoo; say no. I’ve seen people with tiny kids at the zoo on hot days but I personally wouldn’t do it. Maybe she can just take the older kiddo and little one stays at home.

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Jul 06

    I would let her take them and be on standby. I would also ask for updates approximately every hour. Like B said just pack plenty of supplies for the kids and her (don’t want Grandma fainting from heat and active babies). Grandparents can be pushy and also use the “I raised kids before!” line. (I hate that!) Yeah you raised your kids, these are my kids. Worse case: She sees how are it is and comes home. Best case: She is successful and the kids spend a great day with Grandma. Either way, win for you. Just hang in there.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 06

    Packed a bunch of snacks and toys and books and a portable fan and charger. I forgot to see if she had an umbrella, it calls for storms today. Still anxious, they haven’t really been on an outing without us. I’m hoping it does go well so it’ll be easy and fun for the babies.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 06

    I really do hate how my mom and mil use the phrase. Time’s are much more different now and they know what their kids are like, plus my toddler speaks more of my language than English for the few words she does know. But we went over what everything means so hopefully it’s a fun day for them. Wish I can turn down mom mode a bit and enjoy the day as well 😅

  • Anonymous
    Jul 07

    Honestly, you’re the mom, if you don’t want her to, don’t let her. She isn’t entitled to your children. You have the right to set boundaries. You know your children the best. Just tell her no.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 07

    She took them she didn’t tell me they went to her sister’s granddaughter’s birthday party at the zoo. I was so worried the whole time till sil told me. She kept them for the night and had her mom with her as well and said they cried and didn’t really sleep. I think we might’ve just stop with overnights though it’s been the second time they kids cried all night.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 07

    Bottles clothes/swaddles are missing now and the snacks were barely touched 🙃 such a huge pet peeve

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Jul 07

    Sometime Grandparents are like toddlers. 😁

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Jul 07

    You won’t have to worry about her being too pushy for while.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 08

    Seriously lol can’t take no for an answer either. But no she likes to insist on baby sitting and overnights she’s had them before and my toddler stayed up till 5 crying a few days later she asked to take her out of town. My toddler was literally clinging on to me yesterday and cried if I’m out of sight. So no more overnight.

  • Stay-At-Home Dan
    Jul 08

    Sometimes we have to just be upfront and let them know that somethings are not up for discussion. Simple as that.