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Super fussy baby at night 1months old don’t know what to do please help!!!😭😭😭😭

My son will be 1months old on Friday and for the past week or so he will not sleep for more than an hour between feedings🙄😭I haven’t gotten any sleep and a few times I’ve fallen asleep while breastfeeding him but during those times he slept 3-4 hours between feeding now he is cluster feeding every 30mins to 1hour and it’s exhausting bc he doesn’t do that during the day he goes 3-4 hours or at least 2hours between feedings. Should I give him a bottle a night with breast milk so I know he is getting enough? Could this be collic? He used to sleep so well and now he doesn’t hardly sleep at all at night except when I hold him or he is feeding... every time he feeds he falls asleep but then as soon as I put him in his bassinet he waits five mins and then screams his brains out and won’t settle down until I feed him😭😭😭please help!!

  • Megan
    Jan 08

    Have you tried gas drops or gripe water? They have a night time one that works wonders for our son. But when both my babies were that little they didn’t like to lay in their bassinet. They also hated being swaddled and broke out of them immediately after being born (like in the hospital the pediatrician and nurses couldn’t swaddle them) They want the comfort of being held. What worked for us was having the bassinet right up next to the bed and I’d lay my hand over and have it rest on their tummy. It helped them feel a bit more secure and helped us get some much needed sleep. We would also switch nights for who would do this when the baby would squirm so we’d get the most amount of sleep possible before the next feeding. How I can tell if I’m making enough milk, if he pulls off and I can squeeze more out, than he’s getting enough. It’s not my flow, it’s something else. How if the latch? He may also just be going through a growth spurt. Our son grew soooo fast from newborn clothes to 6 month size in a couple weeks! For him he’d get super agitated and kick a lot when he’d get tired. I would massage his legs and squeeze them. It helped a ton! Hopefully some of this helps

  • Cayley
    Jan 08

    Thankyou I will give that a try and I feel like he gets plenty of milk usually it squirts out and I constantly leak

  • Anna
    Jan 08

    I would also check with a lactation consultant or doctor to make sure he doesn’t have a tongue tie. This exact thing happened to my friend, and that’s what it turned out to be!

  • Anna
    Jan 08

    Oh and giving a bottle of formula isn’t a bad idea, either! Formula isn’t the devil 😜 as some people think. We have done both breast milk and formula for both our babies, and they are happy and healthy.

  • Elle
    Jan 09

    Your instincts are right, momma. Suggest Formula in a bottle so you can be sure he is getting the nutrients and hydration he needs. Also gas drops (any infant simethicone drops will do). Bicycle kick those legs. Suggest mixing in some breast milk (pump or hand express) in the bottle so it's a little gentler on his stomach. Latch issues and intake uncertainties aside, people don't test the nutritional value of their breast milk, and you never want to be in the situation where you just keep at the breastfeeding thing and baby ends up undernourished or in the hospital for dehyration. If there's a concern, one of the safest things you can do to include some formula to ensure baby is getting at least some amount of what he needs. Also, once you are feeding him with a bottle and are sure he is getting enough hydrarion and nutrition to sleep, if he does the thing you describe (waking back up after being put down), do not pick him back up and feed him. This is the time for babies to learn self- soothing. Shush him, pat his belly, don't make eye contact or say anything (as that will wake him back up). Maybe a pacifier or lovey. See if you can get him to soothe himself.

  • Jackie
    Jan 09

    My 6 month old is going through this now. She has been on formula for the last 3 months. She wakes every hour pretty much and because of our circumstances at home (both my husband and I have to be up at 2am plus having another child at home) we really can’t afford for her to cry all night.

  • Valerie
    Jan 09

    Dont give up breastfeeding. I feed my baby for 3 years. They pass this times were they are growing and they get less sleep. I recommend you to ask your doctor and follow your instincts. You can do it!!

  • Stephanie
    Jan 09

    You should try formula in the day time and breast feed at night something our breast milk is very light not fatty enough so babies don’t get full my daughter use to not sleep much because my breast milk was not filling her up i am now formula and breast feeding her and she sleeps for a long time also bath your baby before you put them to sleep at night so it relaxes them and lets you sleep promise it helps

  • Cayley
    Jan 09

    Thank you fellow mammas I will try those ideas and see if anything helps he also has his one month checkup this Friday so I might ask pediatrician their advice too

  • AVG
    Jan 09

    Could be a growth spurt, they start at about 4-8 weeks. He just wants to be next to you. My lo now 5 months did this too around 6-8weeks. More during the day tho, she did good sleeping at night but we co-sleep. Easier to nurse back to sleep. Also could be comfort feeding if he isn’t that hungry and only using you to nurse back to sleep. My lo also did that still sometime does.. I know it’s exhausting but embrace it before you know they will outgrow it!

  • Jasmine
    Jan 10

    Try mylicon gas drops , baby only wants you mama

  • Andrea
    Jan 10

    My advice if you want to continue to breastfeed don’t supplement with formula unless necessary! It will affect your supply and you’ll have to supplement more and more. At one month baby is very likely growth spurting and/or trying to build up your supply up! They do this mainly at night. I personally coslept for the first 6 months with my second son (now 10 months old). It was soooo much easier than with my first (my first i used a bassinet). I know cosleeping makes some people nervous.... but they have options out there like getting a cosleeper that sits on top of your bed. Just make your sleeping arrangements as easy on yourself as possible.... for both you and your baby’s sake. Over time it will get easier... remember baby is only 1 month old. They are still in the newborn phase. Good luck momma!

  • Amy
    Monday

    Sounds like you're producing milk just fine. Mine was doing that about 2 weeks old - eating for a few minutes, falling asleep. Waking up after 20 min and the only way to soothe was feeding again. I was swapping left and right every time because I'd heard to keep it even....and was losing my mind without sleep. And we figured out she was only getting foremilk instead of the fattier hindmilk as the breast empties. A common problem for moms producing lots of milk! The solution (lactation consultant's suggestion) was to keep her awake for each feed as long as I could so she'd take more volume - tickle toes, talk to her, take socks off so she was cool, etc - and just stay on one side for every feed for a couple of hours, so she would get the richer milk to stay full. The first night I did that, after 3 cluster feeds she fell asleep and slept for 4 hours instead of 20 minutes!!! And by 2 months was sleeping 7 hrs overnight. Game changer for us. And no, I haven't ended up with lopsided breasts - I just start on the other side the next time.