Posted in Behavior, Child Care, Toddlers

Taking Toys

Anonymous

I run a small in home Day Care and there is a child in my care that is constantly taking toys from the other kids. It doesn’t matter what toy it is. They just want any toy that another child has. It’s causing the other kids not to want to be around them. Pushing them away as soon as they are near. 18 months is a hard age for sharing, I know that, but I don’t want them to not be liked by the other children.

  • Nichole
    May 28

    18 months is a good time to start using time outs. Using a timeout spot and talking to them might help to curb the actions.

  • anonymous mom
    May 28

    I think you just have to be consistent and reinforce sharing. It’s great they have you as their provider to advocate for them. Can you talk to their parents, see if they notice the behavior as well and try to reinforce sharing at home?? Also, there’s a board book series called “hello genius” and they have a book on sharing (little lion shares). I haven’t read that one but I do have the Little Monkey Calms Down board book from that series and my daughter loves it. When she starts to tantrum and cry I start reciting pages from that book and it helps her so much!! She’s 21 months old but the sharing book may help, you could try reading it to all of them maybe.

  • Anonymous
    May 28

    I have removed him from the area and that usually results in a melt down but having a designated spot for it may help if they realizes it’s happening every time they take a toy. Thanks for your advice

  • MsPallavi
    May 28

    Its important you talk about emotions and feelings with this child. He is understanding that it is ok for him to do that, you should make sure to give attention to the children whom the toys are being taken from . This way he is not feeding off of the negative attention he gets. Once this behavior is ignored, and the victim is given attention. The trend will set and then you can ask the child later " How do you think child 1 felt when you took that toy away from him.?"

  • anonymous mom
    May 29

    ☝️☝️. Oh that’s really good advice too, what MsPallavi said. When my daughter was 13ish months old she had a problem in her daycare class where she was pulling her classmates hair. It was resolved really quickly by enforcing gentle hands at home and by her teachers redirecting/paying attention to the hurt child and then talking to her once she’d calmed down about how it hurts when she pulls hair. Her teachers said she was one of the easiest students they’d ever had when it came to teaching empathy, she started to feel bad immediately once she would do it and within a week or so she stopped pulling hair completely. She hasn’t had the impulse reaction to pull hair since. So definitely work on the empathy piece, it’s a great idea!!