Posted in Behavior, Toddlers

Tantrums

My 23 month old is starting to have tantrums and also starting to say no and hit and throw things. She cries all morning and cries all night and I can never figure out what is wrong. I am trying to find the best way to teach her to express how she feels while still not giving in to this behavior. Can someone give me some tips on how they handle the tantrum phase?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 29

    Does she get to make any choices? They don't have to be open ended, but if you want her to do something, you could say, we are getting dressed, do you want the purple pants or the pink pants? Time to get in the car, do you want this book or that book? Etc. Small choices help her feel like she's in control and might help you get things done without as many fights. Also encourage her to talk or sign. Say something like Mommy doesn't understand you when you scream, or mommy isn't going to listen when you hit, use your words.

  • Shon
    Jan 29

    Thank you so much that helps, I think that’s her thing, she just wants to be so independent for everything and she wants her way or no way that’s why she started these tantrums

  • PK
    Jan 29

    What anonymous said has worked great for us! Also as far as expressing feelings, maybe find a few library books that talk about emotion. I started reading books to my son about it and out of nowhere one day, he started to tell me how he felt. And once they identify that, you can give them ideas on proper ways to deal with it. For being mad, I tell my son to tell me that he’s mad and then step away to calm down. Also when they start to act mad or sad, be sure to verbally identify what they are feeling. Eventually they’ll pick up on it. Tell them how you are feeling too.

  • Shon
    Jan 30

    Also very good idea