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Teacher cutting 3 year old hair!!!

Anonymous

Last night after bath I put my 3 year old daughters hair up in pigtails, this morning i brushed and fixed them to look nice. Both times perfect straight part. So when she came home from preschool this afternoon I was livid to find her hair had been cut. This is not the first time her hair has been cut I always assumed it was one of my other kids doing it so we put all the scissors up to where only I know where they are. On this one today it looks like he hair started falling out of the rubber bands then instead of fixing it was just cut. I’m going to go talk to them tomorrow morning and have taken pictures of her hair what it looked like after school. Usually the teacher forgets to put her hat on today it was on. If it was just an accident either another student or herself why not just say that. Besides the fact I’d now be asking how come a room full of 3-4 year olds isn’t being supervised with scissors. How would you handle this situation? Cuz I want to go in blazing but I know that’s probably not the best

  • Kim
    Jan 09

    I would inquire as to what happened as calmly as you can. I would also be bonkers mad. But try to approach it from a non-accusatory tone. I wouldn’t even ask a question at first, just state facts. A question is too pointed and might immediately put them on the defensive. “I noticed my daughter had her hair cut while at school on X day.” Then if they don’t respond prompt a question, “Can you tell me more about this?” If they don’t have legitimate reasons/or lie I would probably find a new place and report them to the local authority/inspections depending on your state laws.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 09

    @kim thanks for the advice! She goes to preschool through the school district because she was a bit behind on speech so this is not a private school. There are other elementary schools in town with preschools they just typically place by where you live you go to X school. We’ll cross that path if needed. And yes I took these pictures which are date/time stamped if I need to take them to police. Pretty sure this would go under battery I believe.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 09

    Before you leap to police and battery, there are so many things that could have happened. She could have cut it herself at home or school. Another kid could have. It could have torn if her hair way caught on something. Accidents happen. Assume the best and see what they say when you tell them you are concerned that her hair was cut. Do they know what happened.

  • Anonymous
    Jan 09

    Thanks anonymous! Yes I’m trying not to jump to anything and yes accidents do happen. But why I wasn’t informed is also concerning to me. I know it happened at school because that’s the only place she’s been and I notice it right when we walked in the door. I ended up calling the school and the principal said he’d try to find out what happened and I’m going in to talk with them in the morning. It’s just a very large chunk to just ignore and for the teacher to have either not noticed or not to report either in person, email or phone call what happened

  • Anonymous
    Jan 09

    I’m not saying don’t bring it up. I’d be pissed and they should have told you. But it’s a huge jump to say that you’re thinking of police charges...

  • Mrs. HHH
    Jan 10

    Your daughter is 3. Can she answer questions as to who cut her hair?

  • Anonymous
    Jan 10

    I talked with the school today, very calm just wanting facts not there to point fingers. Just to make sure it hopefully won’t happen again. Meeting was extremely short principal basically said the teacher who didn’t show up to the meeting was shocked when she found out, and that it no way at all happened inside there school. She is in the preschool to receive speech so is not able to communicate enough to tell us. Which the principal brought up that if she could speak better we could just ask her to tell us. Well no flip!! He also said perhaps on the 1 minute ride home she pulled her hair out or there was scissors in the car. Who keeps scissors in there car and in the back seat with grabby hands!!! So yep nothing was resolved at all I guess it just mysteriously happened. Upsetting that she is in their care and they can’t even just say hey we’ll try to make sure this is prevented in the future. I’m not one to waste my time going up to the school for meetings I have a lot better things to do with my time.

  • Kim
    Jan 10

    That is awful. I would for sure report them to whomever conducts inspections and whatnot. Differs in each state. Can’t believe the teacher couldn’t even come and have an honest conversation. I have a 3yo and it seems like it would be very difficult for her to cut her hair herself in that spot.

  • Anonymous
    Monday

    From the looks of the picture, based on your description having fixed her pigtails in the morning, it definitely seems like it was cut from someone behind her. And as the other poster said,..a lil 3 yr old is going to have a hard time reaching. My son is 3.5 and can't get his shirts over his head lol However, he did get my small scissors I cut my own hair with and hid in the bathroom, poorly I might add. But when he cut his hair, it was luckily a tiny bit before I was able to get the scissors but logically he went for the few pieces right in front he could grab and see. Mind you when I had long hair at that age I cut my hair and told my mom "it was in my eyes" and went right for the front as well. I'm not Sherlock Holmes but there's no way someone is telling me my kid cut their own hair off the BACK of their head and in my car no less ...tf..??! SMH lordttt...I WOULDDAA..🤬. That much hair missing from your lil girl had to be a mess to clean up, is there perhaps another kid in her class that might be more verbal and offer up info via their parents you could probe for info? Or even the school janitor that perhaps noticed a large amount of human hair in the trash? Least then you'd know the teacher or someone was lying cuz it proves it definitely was at school. Not for nothing, but that's awful and the teacher is shady. I pray it's not some kind of punishment she's putting upon kids who can't speak up or something cuz I've heard of things like that being done. Or another kid being malicious and picking on her and the teacher doesn't want to fess up that she wasn't paying attention to children with sharp objects. ..idk ...I feel for you ...battery ...child abuse..or negligence and Idiocracy..either way I hope you find out what the hell happened and I'm sorry this was so long lol :(

  • Morgan
    Monday

    I would report her

  • Anonymous
    Yesterday

    @annoymous I really don’t know any of the parents in her class, one of the kids lives on the same street as us but I don’t know if he’d know anything. I also don’t feel comfortable bringing a complete stranger into this. Thankfully after I washed and brushed her hair more it became less noticeable unless you are looking or know it’s there it’s hidden under more hair. I’ve been keep a close eye on her hair since then. She’s also the youngest and smallest kid in her class