Posted in Behavior, Pets

Teaching Gentleness?

My youngest is a battle tank. She charges into every situation, which really freaks out our small dogs. Does any one have any good picture book suggestions about being careful or gentle?

  • Andrea
    May 21, 2018

    I don’t have any books, and I can’t say it’s “magic”, but we are constantly reminding our sons to use their gentle hands, gentle bodies, walking feet (when running is not appropriate), things like that. And we reinforce by also using our gentle hands and gentle bodies so that they have a good example - if my son comes rushing at me waggling his hands, I’ll usually reinforce by showing how I use my hands gently. Same thing with our cats - if my son goes bombarding himself at one of the cats, I’ll stop him and actually take his hand and use it gently to pet the cat (assuming they haven’t already dashed away at this point.) We are basically always reminding and always tying to set the example of the behavior we want to see. Specifically with the cats, and now that my son is older and really wants to interact with them, it helps to remind him that they aren’t going to let him near them unless he’s calm and gentle with them. I would say that we are up to this working about 75% of the time now that our older son is 3...and looking to basically start fresh with our almost 1 year old.

  • Cody
    May 21, 2018

    I do the same thing as Andrea with my niece who is indestructible. She is full throttle all the time. The more I reinforce it the more she repeats it. I also do tend to look back on some of my medical school books and their newer editions to brush up and see what they say vs what works. It’s mostly positive reinforcement.

  • Cherrie
    May 23, 2018

    We just got a new puppy. " Be gentle" and "Please stop running over the puppy with your truck" has become my mantra as our son just barrels over everything in his path. I'm going to try being more specific with gentle hands and feet. I like that suggestion. ❤