Tantrums, daughter getting sick & starting a new job 😩😩😩Im a single parent and I feel like I just want to cry. It’s so over whelming... 😔
Hi, I get it Keylim. I’m a mom of 2. My daughter is 2yo and my son 8.5. Also started a new job.
I’m sorry your feeling overwhelmed and hope at least, there are moments at home when your daughter listens, and work is peaceful.
You’ll get through this!! ☹️😚 the tantrums are a phase. And don’t forget your an amazing person and super hero!!
My daughter is almost 2. She throws fits all the time. Ive learned to just walk away. She does it for the reaction so if we are at home and she throws one i just walk away and let her get it put of her system. She usually stops quick after she realizes she has no audience.
Learn the difference between tantrums and meltdowns. Meltdowns require attention but tantrums are attention seeking and need to be ignored as mentioned above. It’s also never too early to teach time out. Find a space and calmly place her there and simply explain why she is there and when she calms down she can come out. At first it may take you placing her back in spot repeatedly but she will catch on. Don’t talk , don’t look, go about your business. Once calm, simply talk it over and end with hug. Tantrum time will start to shorten. I wasn’t able to master this until #3 and 4 (twins) came along. They have to work through it. Sometimes the screaming and crying lasts a while . Sometimes it’s very short and sometimes even when they are done and are allowed to leave time out they choose to stay there quietly for a while and come out when they are ready. Consistency is the key. It’s hard work at first but pays off in the end.
You don’t have ignore tantrums or meltdowns. There isn’t really a difference. It is your child being overwhelmed with emotion. I know you are busy, but if you can listen to no drama discipline, that will probably help a lot. It’s on audible, you do a free trial and download it. It is a phase, but it’s a phase because they’re developing the emotional part of their brain and can’t verbalize or even mentally name their feelings or why. Our job as parents in this age to help them regulate their emotions and then, once calm, talk through (or even practice) better ways of addressing that desire/need/emotion. I am pregnant with baby 4, and I won’t say I never “ignore” my child because sometimes sometime is upset when I’m cooking dinner and I can’t just drop the pot of water or stop what I’m doing when I’m cleaning a toilet, but ignoring is never the ideal or appropriate response. We won’t be able to do all the time, but the more times we can connect with our child and coach them through the issue (once emotions are no longer high) the more practice they get for regulating their own emotions and the faster they’ll be able to solve problems on their own. Ignoring can, in extreme cases, actually teach their that their emotions are not important at all. Even their desires that appears silly or crazy or even mean to us, seem normal to them, they see it differently but all emotions are acceptable. It’s how we express them that needs to be taught and coached.
Ps, you are working hard and doing a great job. It’s okay to cry and be overwhelmed. I’ve done that. I hope somehow you get some time to yourself and feel proud of all you are doing for you and her!!
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