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Tips on re-homing a pet

Our poor cat has really struggled with anxiety since our daughter was born last year. Ultimately, we’ve decided that the kindest thing we can do for our kitty is to find a new, child-free home for her where she can get the attention she needs! We’d like to make this transition as smooth as possible for her. Any practical tips? Has anyone had to re-home a pet after having a baby? Thank you!

  • Laura
    Mar 27

    We gave our dog away when our daughter was nearly 1. Before then our dog could always get away from the baby but once she became more mobile and grabby the dog would get cornered and growl at the baby. Luckily we had good friends that already dog-sat when we traveled, so they were able (and thrilled) to take the dog full time. Now we dog-sit when they travel. Our daughter loves dogs, but young kids and animals in close quarters will always be a little risky and we didn't want to risk it.

  • Elle
    Mar 28

    I am so so sorry you have to go through this... 1. Research any candidates (including to make sure they aren't on any online registry for animal abuse). 2. Arrange a few visits, make it positive for kitty (have candidate give kitty her favorite treats, etc). 3. You bring kitty to them, dont let them,take kitty to their place. This way, you can see if their place is actually set up for arrival of a new ,kitty (and they arrnt some terrible person with some terrible intent). Other options: 1. Keep them separated. Any pet and any baby/kid should be either kept separated or supervised until the kid is around 7 for the safety and security of both. 2. Has your vet seen your kitty for this issue? If not, when is kitty's next vet visit? Would a low dose anti-anxiety sprinkled in her food once/day be an option? Not trying to shame, but medication like that is waaaay less anxiety-producing than the cat trying to figure out what she did wrong to be kicked out of her home and if / when you're coming back for her. 3. Positive association with baby. Give kitty lots oflvoe and pets, especially in the presence of baby. 4. Arrange for a family member, church member, neighbor, friend,,etc,,to,come over once or twice/week to play with kitty.

  • Jade
    Mar 28

    Thank you for your responses! We are currently setting up interviews and will definitely be doing a home visit with final candidates to ensure she’s going to a responsible and prepared home. Part of the problem is that we have a small home (we are looking for a larger one) so, the cat doesn’t have many places to hide from our active toddler. She spends most of her day sleeping, and then has lots of energy at night. Meowing at our daughters bedroom door etc. We have tried CBD oil treats and drops and many other things! It’s been almost a year of attempting other solutions as we wanted re-homing to be our last resort. Ultimately, I think our cat will be happier with a larger home where she can be the center of attention again, as hard as it is for us to say goodbye.

  • Elle
    Mar 28

    Ug, I feel for you. We were in a similar position, where, just like you, we tried EVERYTHING. The fact that we tried everything made it a little less horrible, logically, but it was still so so hard, and I felt so sorry to give up our kitty. Knowing he went to a good home, where the issues were able to be addressed, helped lessen the sting, too.