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Toddler Injuries at Daycare

How often is your toddler injured at daycare? I don't mean major injuries. But it seems that it's a pretty regular occurrence that I get a phone call telling me another kid bit my son, or hit him on the head with a toy and he has a bump, etc. So, I'm just wondering how often is typical for a toddler to have "incidences" like that to warrant a phone call because there's a mark?

  • Jenn
    Aug 02

    Once my LO started walking, it was like once or twice a week. She was always falling and leaving a mark.

  • Vicki
    Aug 02

    It depends on their policy. If they have to call you for every little bump or fall, it’s going to be a lot. If they only have to call when it involves another child or requires medical attention (bandaid, ice, etc.) then you will hear from them less. If you are really concerned tho, you may want to evaluate how many adults per child they have and take a walk through the facility and make sure there’s no safety issues. And if there’s an ongoing problem with a particular child, the management needs to address that with the other parents and make sure there is adequate supervision.

  • Anonymous
    Aug 02

    Agree with all of the above and just remember that you have a toddler - they are emotional, dramatic, VERY reactive and prone to injury - at least my little guy was! And then put a small pack of them together...recipe for disaster! I think we had 1-2 injuries per week for awhile. So as long as your son’s providers during the day are doing their job and paying attention and your little guy is happy, try to ride it out without stressing to much 🙂

  • Momof1
    Aug 03

    My child has never been injured at daycare but they don’t tell me about anything unless there is a visible mark or bruise. So that lessens the anxiety for me since I don’t have to worry about it. They also let me know if my son is doing anything that might hurt another kid

  • Momof1
    Aug 03

    Also they won’t call me if it’s not serious or an emergency. They just send a note home and let me know at the end of the day

  • Anonymous
    Aug 05

    My daughter has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks. She’ll turn 2 this month. I’ve had 3 daycare incidents that warranted a phone call. Her daycare is really good about being on top of the kids. If they know a child is likely to bite or pull hair they make sure to keep an extra eye and do their best to redirect. My daughter went through a hair pulling phase and they kept a close eye on her and helped her figure out what was going on and she’s been doing well ever since. Biting and hitting will happen since it’s age appropriate but if it was happening all the time I’d definitely want to learn why and understand why they’re not keeping a closer eye on things so it could be minimized. My daughters school started when children were not even one yet with reading the book, “teeth are not for biting.” Little things like that can help a lot. Good luck

  • Rachel
    Aug 08

    While all of these replies are valid, you also need to trust your gut. You just never know. Be sure to drop in unexpected at different times. Most of the time, it’s totally normal. I’m pretty sure all of mine had/have bumps and bruises constantly (2 of my 5 went to daycare full time - the injuries at home are less, but still happen)

  • Jamie
    Aug 08

    I would say look for other clues as well. It's 50/50 at this point, kids will be more daring when away from mom and dad so keep this in mind. But is your kid acting different? Are they a little sad when you get them? Or maybe happy you're saving them? Gotta look at it from all angles, but if you can't figure it out and it still irks you, you can always search for day cares with live cameras or a tadpoles app where you can check in on them throughout the day. Good luck, I hope it's just a playful bruise.

  • Megan
    Aug 08

    I think you should keep an eye on how many of the little bumps and bruises are from your child’s own falls vs another kid biting or throwing a toy, as you mentioned. IMO your daycare should be keeping a close enough eye on things—and reinforcing kindness and good behavior—that the injuries aren’t coming from kids hurting each other.

  • Megan
    Aug 08

    ^^ re-reading this, “falls” sounds bad—of course they should keep kids out of harms way as well! But kids do have little minor mishaps all the time.

  • YoJe
    Aug 08

    Trust your gut and take pics of the boo boos. Record which day it happened.

  • Stacey
    Aug 10

    My kid likes to run faster then the rest of him can keep up with. He gets a lot of little bumps and bruises. Day care is good at letting us know he still likes going so I'm sure it's normal kid bumps. Does your kid still like going to daycare? If not you might try probing a little more on what's going on.

  • Kristen
    Aug 15

    The state ratio of toddlers aged 12 months to 2 years, is 6 children per 1 adult. I don’t know about you, but I have a hard time just keeping my 1 from getting hurt. Let’s try to remember that at this age they can’t verbally express their feelings, so unfortunately, the only way is to hit, bite, push, etc. Children at this age are also learning their environment and what the expectations are. Some kids are more aggressive at this stage and unless the parents are taking these issues seriously, the daycare provider can only do so much while the child is in their care .