Posted in Child Care, Toddlers

Too early for Day care?

Anonymous

Our son is 18 months and very active, talks a lot, loves being outside and around people. I'm a SAHM. I keep us busy with library story times, play dates etc for 2-3 hrs per day usually 3 days per week. But the days we are not doing anything are hard sometimes. He has all this energy and I run out of ideas and he gets restless. I feel so bad. I wanted to wait till he truned 34 months at which point he would be eligible for state pre-school. I also worry about flus and cold etc. Hubby wants him to go to daycare part time for couple of days. He thinks it will help him have a schedule and keep him occupied and also give me some free time and look for a job again (which I wanted to do). We are debating about second child but both are leaning towards one and done. So that makes me feel even more guilty that I'd miss out on the baby/kid stuff if i send him to day care. Im very confused. So, simply put when is a good time if at all to start part time daycare.

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Mar 05

    It’s not too early, it’s a really super personal call. I have three, going on four, but I really believe in some ways have one kid is the hardest. My kids have each other to play with, which frees up my time a bit to do chores and other work. I think if you are looking to have some part time work and some school time for him that is not at all a bad thing. But it’s also not a bad thing to keep him home and homeschool him for as long as you want. Kids until age 5-6 ish really just need a lot of free play. If you want to keep him home, I might look into the kind of toys you have around, the Montessori principles (the toys can be expensive but you can make similar concept items) tend to help young toddlers play more independently for longer, and learn lots without the expense of daycare. Whatever choice you make, it’s really just what works best for the flow of your family and your child will grow just fine. :)

  • Laura
    Mar 05

    18 months would be a great time! Our daughter loved the 1 year old class at daycare. They do so many activities and she made friends that she'd talk about at home and hug at school. She learned to share and take turns.

  • Julie
    Mar 05

    My daughter is 18 months old and has been in daycare since she was 12 weeks!!! She’s also an only child (my husbands choice, not mine, but it is what it is). I would say that since she started walking and talking, I love that she’s in daycare. I didn’t like it at all when she was an infant because I felt like she was too small but now she adores daycare and she absolutely loves all her friends and teachers. They do tons of activities and she has made such strong bonds there that I wouldn’t change a thing. As for illness, it happens. She’s actually had only 3 serious illnesses (RSV twice and one other nasty summer cold) but besides that it’s just your run of the mill colds and runny noses. It depends a lot on your daycare and how well they clean the rooms and how often the children mix from other classrooms. So far we haven’t seen a lot of illness (knock on wood). In the end, it’s 100% your decision. I know lots of children who are at home with their parents all the time, lots who are with nannies or in nanny shares during the day, lots in Home or daycare centers and I’ve found that as long as they’re treated with love, they all thrive!!!

  • Anonymous
    Mar 05

    Thanks ladies for the responses. I know he would enjoy it and the fears are just mine. I am thinking I'll start with a month or two part time for 3 days a week and see how it goes.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 05

    I’m in the same boat! My 15 month old is a wildddd man, and I totally know it’s his age. He loves to run and jump and yell and play! Especially since it’s been cold I have really been struggling with being indoors and finding things to do! I recently got a part time job and he goes to a sitters house (w other kids) for 4-5 hours a day and it’s the best choice I ever made! I still see him half the day and the other half he’s playing w other kids and out of the house while I get some adult interaction and help paying some bills! It’s really a perfect trade off for my family! I think your husband is right about a couple days of day care or part time care. I think it’s a perfect balance like I have. you have plenty of time w him yet he still gets the interactions and activities of the day care! You can always just test it out and see how he does, if you hate it or he hates it they can’t make you stay! :) you’re a great mom, I can tell! You’ll make the right call!

  • Anonymous
    Mar 05

    Thank you! I totally agree with winters being hard. Planning to put him in a part time care for the next two months and see. If nothing else we'll have him entertained till summer.

  • A
    Mar 05

    Daycare is a struggle. I took care of my niece since she was around 18 mo or so and worked nights and was in between jobs (at one point working 15 hours/day). I look back and am very thankful I got that time with her... my mom and I questioned if she should be in daycare or preschool but even her dr said she thrived and since she had children to play with from time to time she didn’t see it necessary. Since going to elem. school she’s done well and has worked out a few issues... point is it’s very confusing and very hard to be a parent all you can do is try and see what happens. There are so many ways life can play out for you and your baby I hope you find what works best and makes you feel most comfortable. Do your research and ask questions and mostly follow your gut. You’ve got a lot of great advice here that I’m paying attention to as well since I have a 13 mo old

  • Cathy
    Mar 05

    I used to be a preschool director and I have an education background. I stopped working to stay at home with my son. He turned two in December. Like you, I planned everything for my son - all the activities! It just seemed like it was never enough. My son goes to a program twice a week from 9-12:30. That’s it. It’s enough for him to have organized, free, learning through play with peers and teachers. It allows me to run around to a doctors appointment that my husband would have had to stay home for, it lets me wash the floors or clean the bathrooms or even eat. It’s the perfect amount of time that allows him to embrace his independence and for me to allow him that opportunity. Now, yes, with school comes germs. He’s been sick a few times but it’s good exposure for him so he’s not absent all through Kindergarten. My son has been going to school for two months now and is so excited to go. I know you’ll make the right decision for your family!

  • Jess
    Mar 07

    Maybe try a mom’s morning out thing? That’ll give you 3 hours or so twice a week. A little social interaction for him and some time for you. I currently have a 2nd on the way so I want to get some school/daycare in as part of his schedule, but I’ve also noticed in our playgroup that the kids who do the morning program seem a little more outgoing and assertive. My son is 23 months and the oldest in our group but he’s definitely more meek. I’m hoping a little more interaction without me there as a safety net will help him build confidence. If you or your son don’t like it you can always opt out later.

  • Anonymous
    Mar 08

    @Jess I'm not sure what a mom's morning out is? How do I find one?

  • Lynn
    Mar 09

    Getting sick builds their immune system. It’s a good thing.

  • Jess
    Mar 10

    I googled mom’s morning out near me to start. Churches in your area may offer them, if they have a preschool program of some kind they usually offer one and they are significantly less expensive than private preschools, overall. We don’t go to church and we’re still doing one through a church, you don’t need to be a Christian/church member but I think they do incorporate some bible stories. I also found a couple through local preschools that are likely a little more enrichment based. My friend brings her almost 2 year old to one at the local church, they do art, songs, circle time etc. She says her son loves it. In our area church programs usually coincide with the school year calendar whereas the secular preschool programs are available year round. Hope this helps!

  • Jess
    Mar 10

    ...and to answer your question mom’s morning out is just a short 1-2 day per week preschool program for younger kids usually 3 and under. Most of the programs I’ve looked at are 8:30-12:30 (or around there) Twice per week.