Anonymous

Trip without mom

When was the first time your kiddo took a trip without you? My MIL has been insisting she take our 2 year old to California (1.5 hour flight) to visit my brother in law for a weekend..... I don’t know how I feel about it?? Part of me knows of course he’d have fun at the beach all day, but then that distance is kinda far without momma in a strange place.

  • Beth
    Oct 03

    Yeah that'd make me uncomfortable and my kid is 3.5. I've taken a trip and left my daughter with her grandparents at thier house but I don't like the idea of someone else traveling with my kid. Too many opportunities for them to get lost, picked up by strangers. Grandparents are out of practice watching littles, especially 2 who's still a baby. They're not quite verbal yet, they're just starting to walk and run and will run everywhere. I say if she wants the kiddo to come she can pay for your ticket too. If you don't want to go then they can all wait until kiddo is at least 5 and has a better chance of knowing what's going on and why. 2 is way too young, They don't even know what's going on tomorrow if you tell them 6 times.

  • Kieli
    Oct 03

    For me, that would be a no. My daughter is a mommas girl and I would have to go with them in order for her to feel comfortable and safe. Especially on an airplane ride, then being in a strange place. If you're not comfortable, my dad always tells me “no” is a complete answer. Especially when it comes to your kids.

  • Yanis
    Oct 03

    I personally wouldn’t be okay with that.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 03

    No is a complete answer. I LOVE that

  • Vonda
    Oct 03

    I wouldn’t be ok with that. Not until my son is 8 or something like that.

  • Vicki
    Oct 03

    That’s a big no from me.

  • B
    Oct 03

    That would be a firm no for me. IMO 2 is too young to travel on a plane with someone other than me or my husband. And I personally wouldn’t allow my 2 year old to take a beach trip without us either.

  • Ivana
    Oct 03

    It’s a lot to navigate with a toddler on a trip, I don’t think people fully appreciate everything that goes into it. Would she be taking the car seat and installing it each time? What about sleeping arrangements? Two year olds need an age appropriate bed still. Even for close trips they travel with a lot of stuff and aren’t always cooperative. I’m reluctant to even travel solo with my 3 year old daughter, it’s just a lot to navigate on your own and I think it gets easier when they’re a little older and can at least use those portable car seats.

  • Anonymous
    Oct 04

    Big no from me. If my husband went too (I assume it’s his mom and brother) id be fine with it.

  • Sara
    Oct 10

    My parents (who live across the country) have been begging to take my kids on their own for a period of time in the summer. My oldest is 4 and I don’t yet feel comfortable with this — not because I don’t trust my parents but because I know the 4 year old would miss us too much and feel scared. I think maybe in a couple years I’d let her spend a week with them in the summer without us. Probably only her though and not her younger siblings.

  • Jennifer
    Oct 10

    Girl you better enjoy your weekend and let him go (as long as he enjoying being with his grandmother lol) You deserve a break. You can FaceTime him every day or night. Your MIL will take great care of him!

  • Wendy
    Oct 10

    I guess I'm in the minority here but I think it depends on his relationship with his grandma. I've been talking about shipping off my kiddo to his grandparents who live across the country since he was born. :P But kidding aside, if you think they have a close relationship, he would feel comfortable for a few days, I think it will only enhance their relationship, give you a break and give him a little adventure. The question really is...will he freak out and be a total pain b/c he misses his parents on the trip.

  • Aya
    Oct 10

    I agree, I think it depends on your son's relationship with the MIL. If your MIL is used to being with him, taking care of him, I say go for it. The first time I left my child with my parents (not MIL) was in Tokyo, when he was 4. He stayed with them for a week. We dropped him off and then we picked him up (he did not miss us much - ha). The first time he flew solo with my parents was this past summer, when he was 6 (layover, CA to Japan) but he probably could've done it earlier (I'd say 4). My parents are very close with him and visits/helps often - so it really depends. We also have 2.5 year olds - I think I would let them fly with my parents, but I worry more about random tantrums, etc.

  • Angel
    Monday

    My dad keeps trying to take my daughter an hour drive away and my answer is still NOOOOOO