Trouble with PM naps...

I am a SAHM with a 2yo (who has always been champion napper/sleeper) and an almost 3 month old. I am struggling with (amongst other things) getting the 3mo on some sort of schedule. I COMPLETELY realize she is still very young and is adjusting to being alive but I feel like I cannot give her sleep schedule the focus it needs with a toddler running around. Currently, she is exclusively BF but I am open to supplementing, etc. She seems to nap well in the morning hours but has rarely napped successfully in the PM regardless of what time her AM nap is/how long it is. I have tried white noise, darkening the room, wearing her, a pacifier...she just doesn't sleep. And by the time bedtime rolls around she's so overtired it takes forever to get her to sleep and by then she's been awake for HOURS. I just feel so sad because she looks so sleepy and I don't know how to help. Any advice is appreciated. She is a wonderfully cheerful baby and very good natured. At a loss...TIA

  • MamaNukesYopolo
    Nov 10, 2019

    Babies that young do not have a schedule and you can’t put them on one. The best you can do is so your toddlers routine and let them nap on the go. My almost three month old naps in the car, the stroller, the baby carrier and the pack n play. Just depends where we are what what we’re doing for the older ones (I have a 5,3,2 yr old). I know it’s not what you want to hear.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 11, 2019

    I believe at 3 months she should be taking 3 naps a day, vs 2. It sounds like she’s over tired by the time her “PM nap time” comes around. I don’t believe she should be awake for longer than a few hours at this point. Maybe try putting her down 2 hours or so after her first nap to avoid over tiredness

  • Rebecca
    Nov 11, 2019

    Check out the book babywise. It really helped me set up a schedule. Is your toddler nap at all ? Have quiet time ? Those are times baby can also nap. Setting up eating and nap schedule is important and can happen.

  • Lindsey
    Nov 12, 2019

    Oh, Mama, YOU sound tired! Way to keep up with both babies. You're trying hard. I had a similar issue with my second. Overtired but struggling with a nap schedule. I did have to sleep train - which also meant training myself to be specific about when I put him down and got him up. There was some crying (by both be AND I) but I made sure he was fed and comfy so that even if he did cry I knew it was temporary. If you need more support, PM me - happy to be a sounding board for you! No judgement 💜