Posted in Behavior, Potty Training, Preschoolers

Trouble with potty training my 3.5 year old (youngest of 3 boys)

So my first son instantly transitioned from diapers to undies, with no accidents whatsoever.. not even overnight! I was hoping to have him potty trained at 2.5 before my second was born, but he was good to go before turning 3!! My second, I started potty training at 2, but he just loved his diapers, he knew what he was doing just wasn’t ready to let go of the diapers, and again, by 3, he was on his own, although for about a year he would have accidents at night a lot, and was extremely embarrassed about it... now with my third, he is 3.5 with a 7 and 5 year old brothers, and he knows what he is doing, he brings me the diapers and the whipes and will say, change diaper I pooped, only to poop immediately again!! I got him his own little potty with his name in it, let him pick out the undies he wanted, but he has had absolutely no care for the last year. He is starting to get embarrassed about it though. But if I try putting underwear on him he cries for a diaper, I’ve tried bribing him, having his older brothers talk to him, daddy trying to sit with him, I’ve tried the rewards ... he’s gone on the potty enough times that I know he knows, he’s just being lazy, and if I keep him naked he has no problem pooping and peeing anywhere but the toilet (but rarely will). Any ideas on what to do with a stubborn 3 year old that loves to wear diapers ? Thank you :)

  • Amanda
    Apr 10

    Throw the diapers away and put him in underwear. When he cries for a diaper remind him you are all out and can't give him one. Every accident he has have him help clean it up. Full stop no fun until it's clean. He may grump for a day or so but when he realizes your serious he may start working with you to go potty.

  • Anonymous
    Apr 10

    Have him help throw the diapers in the big trash can so he sees for himself they’re al gone and there’s no choice for a diaper anymore

  • K
    Apr 10

    At our 3 year doc appt for my son, who is now 4, she told me that it’s just a control thing and to let it go. She suggested that we put him in underwear, he was ok with peeing on the potty, and tell him that he can put on a diaper when he needs to poop. That lasted 1 day before he just decided he’d rather just do the potty thing.

  • CJ
    Apr 12

    Mine just turned 4 and just pooped in the potty twice in one week. Might be the biggest thrill of my life. Just breathe, and tell yourself that if it never happens you can always get adult diapers at the store. Just kidding. He’ll get it. I put my kid in a preschool that accepts kids who aren’t potty trained and I think that helped. Also, the rewards got bigger for pooping in the potty... Toys he wanted but couldn’t have unless he did it. He’s coming around.

  • CJ
    Apr 12

    (Also, I tried everything posted here and more so much more... I got to the frustration point where I had to defer to his father to handle him when he had an accident because I was pulling my hair out and I knew that my crazy wasn’t helping... I took a step back. Remember to be nice not nuts and it’s often nicest to disengage. If you’re the only grown up, see what I said about adult diapers.)