Posted in Milestones & Development, Toddlers

Two year old doesn’t talk much

My son just turned two years old. We just had our well visit and the doctor is concerned he is not talking much. She referred me to Early Intervention. As a mom, I feel like a failure. Has anyone gone through this or is living it now? Help, tips, ideas, please!

  • Natalie
    Nov 30, 2018

    My sons vocabulary was decent but he definitely wasn’t saying 2 word phrases at his 2 year appointment. It’s been 3 months and his talking has tripled. You are not a failure!!!!! Boys take longer to do everything. I say give it a few months and if you don’t see any improvement then go ahead and look into early intervention. My son may be moving in slow motion but he’s improving every week and that’s perfectly fine with us!

  • Cathy
    Nov 30, 2018

    You are not a failure. We go to speech too. My son will be 2 next week. What you must remember is that there are these services out there for a reason! There are good people in this world that want to help us help our children. It is our duty as parents to advocate for our children. There should be services through your State for free or a fraction of the cost or there are private therapists out there. Insurance does cover a portion. It is better to get him the help earlier then to wait and find out that he could have used assistance sooner. But don’t beat yourself up. They will give you exercises to do to work with him. I promise it’s all okay and you both will be too.

  • Skye
    Nov 30, 2018

    My son wasn't saying much of anything when he turned 2. 3-6 months later and he is talking like a champ. It's crazy how many words he actually knows.

  • Mar
    Nov 30, 2018

    Do not feel like a failure! U did nothing wrong :) my first born also did not talk much, started him in private speech therapy until i found out that ur school district will help u for free (our taxes at work :). I just emailed someone within my school district and they came out to my house! They evaluated him and then would come to my house once a week to do speech therapy. Best thing ever. He just started pre-k just so he can be around more kids and talk more! It has BEEN A HUGE difference! He talks sooo much, even tho it is hard to understand him at times, all the therapy has been so helpful! And everyone told me that it is nothing that we did as parents, but sometimes that just happens :)

  • Anonymous
    Nov 30, 2018

    You haven’t done anything wrong. Don’t beat yourself up for it. My son just turned 3 and his speech isn’t where it needs to be. His doctor kept telling me to wait that he would catch on and now I regret listening to him. I just started the process with a program at a university. I’m so excited for him to start speech therapy to help him. PLEASE DONT WAIT! It’s best to get your baby help as soon as possible it’s for his own benefit! I wish I would’ve taken action sooner. I wish you both the best of luck!!

  • Yarlin
    Nov 30, 2018

    You’re definitely not a failure, nobody goes to school to be a parent. Kids are just different some talk faster than others some don’t talk at all, but early intervention is going to help alot

  • Melissa
    Nov 30, 2018

    My daughter was two when they referred us and let me just start they are amazing. I felt the same way you did. But we are good moms cause we got them the best help she could get. Everyone told me that she’ll talk when she’s ready but with the extra help she is just no stop now. She knows her colors and can count to 10 with no problem. Knows her name and birthday.

  • Warda
    Dec 01, 2018

    Oh please don’t feel like a failure, I’m sure you’re an amazing mama. I can tell you I am a super type A person and when at 18 months my son didn’t say a word and didn’t point or wave, I felt similar to what you’re feeling. But I listened to my ped and enrolled him in early intervention. Oh boy it’s been over a year now that’s he’s getting speech therapy and I feel like a SUPER AMAZING mom. He at 2.7 years, knows all his letters, all numbers, all shapes (including pentagon, hexagon, etc), all colors, animals and their sounds, body parts, and LOVES to read simple books. I am so happy that I went the early intervention route because they really helped my son and provided me tools that I could use at home to encourage my son talking. So please don’t beat yourself over it but go the early intervention route. If you have any question I’ll be happy to talk! Sending lots of love and hugs.

  • Lyndsay
    Dec 01, 2018

    I am a teacher and my son has a speech delay. He has sensory processing disorder and was unable to separate language from background noise. He wasn’t hearing all of the speech around him because fans or rain would disrupt it. My husband was very nervous about getting him services, but after a couple weeks, was thrilled with the support we got and the progress he made.

  • Estefany
    Dec 02, 2018

    Definitely go through Early Intervention. My son had and his speech is a lot better now at 3 years old. You are not a failure!

  • Miranda
    Dec 03, 2018

    Thank you all for the kind words of encouragement!

  • Shieka
    Dec 05, 2018

    Reaching out for help, advice, etc isn’t easy. You have taken the first step mom, so you can pat yourself on the back for that. It definitely can be a little stressful especially when you see other kids the same age speaking. This is exactly how I felt. My son is 2 and a week before he turned 2 I took him to his pediatrician because I was concerned that he wasn’t speaking at all. We are now starting our second week with a speech therapist that was recommended through a program that was referred by his pediatrician. You are definitely not a failure. Will definitely keep you posted on the progress and I wish you and your lo well.

  • Victoria
    Dec 05, 2018

    You are definitely not a failure. My daughter was the same way at 2. Didn’t say much so her doctor recommended we enroll her in a daycare so she could be around other kids. Ever since then, her understand of things and her speech improved. She’s now 3 years old. She still doesn’t talk as much. But we understand her. Every kid is different and your child will be fine!!

  • Stacy
    Dec 05, 2018

    As everyone else said, you are not a failure! In my opinion, speech is not going to hurt! It will only help! If your son qualifies, he will be able to practice his speech with direct instruction, and you will be given terrific tools to help in his development as well. If he ends up needing more speech services after he ages out of Early Intervention (EI), then being in the program makes the transition to the school district much easier. If your son improves to where he no longer needs/qualifies for speech services, then he simply graduates from the program, and you can just continue on with life! 😊 My son started with EI at age 2. I was grateful for this program. It gave us ideas of fun activities we could do on our own as practice, and he loved working with his speech therapist. He made good progress. When he aged out of that program at age 3, he continued his speech services through the school district. This is when my son was diagnosed with sound system disorder. He has made the most progress at this point. I believe being in school with other kids modeling correct speech along with one-on-one/one-on-two speech instruction with a speech therapist is an amazing combination. His speech therapist also pushes into the classroom to practice speech in real-life situations. He is now in Pre-K and still needing speech, and I imagine we will be carrying over into Elementary School as well. Best wishes to you guys! Stay strong, and stay positive! Just remember that you are supporting and advocating for your son! Great work, Momma!

  • April
    Dec 10, 2018

    All I can say is in addition to the services is always be talking about your surroundings. Counting the Cheerios pointing out colors etc. Even if you don’t think he understands do it anyways bc it will click one day and you will wake up and miss your baby :/