Vent about BIL (long post, sorry)
I just need to vent about my BIL really quick. He moved in with us a few months ago and everything was fine at first. He followed our (very simple) rules of cleaning up after himself and to be quieter when our daughter was sleeping during the day. But lately he seems to think the rules don’t apply to him!! He’s recently started smoking again and I told him if he wants to live with us/be around our 5mo, he has to quit or he can’t touch her because he constantly reeks of cigarettes. He’s been making the biggest messes every day when he goes to work, he’s constantly making as much noise as possible saying it’s ‘not his problem that the baby can’t sleep through noise’. She can sleep through a ton of noise she just can’t sleep through banging pots and pans, doors slamming constantly, and loud music. He acts so entitled when i ask him to PLEASE clean up after himself, says he’s a full time nursing student so he doesn’t have time for that. And just recently he’s been messing with our thermostat, which we keep at 68-70 so our daughter doesn’t get too hot/too cold. I had to turn the AC on because it was 75 out and our rooms get very hot since we are upstairs. Well my BIL opened all the windows downstairs on the main floor!! Said it was too cold in the basement (where he sleeps). That was money flying out the window to me. Told him to please close the windows as we have the AC on. Next thing i know the AC was off, windows were open and our house was HOT!! Then he just left the house with all the windows open!! Someone please tell me i’m not being too unreasonable about this, there’s many many other things that he’s done that I don’t want to go into detail about. He just seems so ungrateful, which is ridiculous because we were the only family members willing to take him in after my MIL kicked him out.