We like our privacy - I feel guilty?
Husband and I are the only ones in the family that own a home, so our house is the central meeting place for family/holidays. In addition, both grandmas babysit my baby in my house each week. It was awkward and still is, because I told them they can ONLY stay for dinner 1x/week per grandma. So that’s 2x/week where we come home and have people around. Sometimes, our brothers/brother-in-law come over too. We figured it can get family commitments out of the way so we can spend weekends as we like. Anyways... On days that they can’t stay, it’s a bit awkward because they need to leave as soon as I’m home. Even if it’s Friday night and I know MIL is free and would stay in a heartbeat. And when me/husband are coming home and in that transition, there’s a bit of awkward tension because it feels like they should stay for dinner. Husband and I both like our space and privacy and enjoy not having to host crazy grandmas or listen to them make it less awkward by purposefully being louder with baby. BTW, dinner/cooking isn’t a big deal on the days they stay for dinner. They cook for us and we meal prep for the other days. And I DO pay them, $400/month each. How do I get over this guilt?? I just feel like I want to hoard all my time with my baby since everyone else wants to see my baby, and I work full time so I’m gone 9-10 hours a day during the week. Our parents are also immigrants so there’s a bit of culture difference too. Us American born kids just like our space 🤷🏻♀️