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Weaning my two year old

My daughter will be two in a few days. She is my fourth baby. My older three were weaned successfully at 16 months each(they're all boys if that matters) . I am still nursing her around the clock, in addition to regular three meals a day, snacks, dairy milk. She will throw the BIGGEST tantrums until I nurse her. I admit , I am very weak with this one. It really has become the only time my little fireball will be calm , and even then shes kicking her legs all around - RLS? Can toddlers have that? I asked her pediatrician, but she sort of dismissed it. I may bring it up again. Anyway, I'm really done with breastfeeding!! Any tips from you mommies that went through this with your toddlers? Sometimes I can tell her "mommy milk is all done for now ." and she'll accept it, but mostly not. Thanks, everyone, for listening🙂

  • Amanda
    Nov 30

    Hi! I breastfed my son until he was about 18 months. Since I was working it dwindled down to just breastfeeding at night. That was the only way I could get him to sleep. It was really hard to stop because he would cry but I just kept telling him it was all gone. After about 3 nights the need pretty much vanished. It was a painful sleep deprived 3 nights, but committing to "all gone" was what helped us. I hope this helps, good luck!

  • Hilary
    Nov 30

    I don’t have any answers but just wanted to let you know that you’re not alone! My son is 22 months and nurses pretty much on demand when I’m home with him, pretty much just for comfort. He goes to day care 4 days a week and is fine not nursing all day. He’s also fine when he’s with my husband. But when I’m around he constantly asks for “boobie” which is cute but also embarrassing when we’re in public. The worst part is that he doesn’t sleep through the night because he gets up to nurse! My husband used to be able to put him back down but the last few weeks he’s over it so the only way I can get him back to sleep is to nurse him. I’m exhausted because I haven’t slept through the night since I was 6 months pregnant! We’ve started taking turns putting him to bed so every other night my son goes to sleep without nursing, so I know he can which is even more frustrating. I would try telling him it’s all gone but he throws the biggest tantrums. I’m also ready to stop. Hang in there Mama, that’s what I’m doing. I mean they can’t nurse forever, right?

  • Vanessa
    Nov 30

    Oh my gosh, Yes! She puts her hand in the top of my shirt and says "mulk " I'm like - he he he not right now . And same with my husband! He puts her to bed and she's out in 10 minutes!😭😭 Thank you for your words!😊

  • Anonymous
    Nov 30

    I feel the same way... idk how to get mine off. He is 16 months old and breastfeeding has just became very unhappy for me so I want to stop for my emotional stage but my son won’t either. Wakeing up 3 or 2 times to nurse don’t want daddy if I’m there. Have a practicals shove apple juice to him Bc I feel so empty so I can refill but that makes him angry. So i feel for you. It’s very angry and the fits for it is ridiculous

  • Sb
    Dec 01

    Firstly ask yourself why your weaning her, if shes not ready is your efforts worthe the while? And also if you really want her to stop rub soemthing she doesnt like on your nipple before nursing like onion garlic or somehting potent in taste but not at all harmful to the child. I'm also breast feeding my 2 and a half year old and she needs it only at nap time and bed time. I wanted to nurse her until she and I were ready to stop but not beyond 3 or so. Suprisingly she is weaning herself at the moment even while shes teething. You'll notice when their ready research shows thats the best time to stop. Also check out babycenter for info like RLS they have great info and tips on it and reliable sources from AAP and pediatricians. It states they do get it and its best to gently message their legs and if its really bothering them. perosnally I would give them a pain reliever like Tylenol especially if it'll help them sleep better .