Posted in Infertility, Trying to Conceive

We’ve been trying for over a year to conceive and nothing is working. He travels most of the year with work and getting an appointment with a fertility specialist is nearly impossible. I have an irregular period and I’ve tried tracking ovulation. He assures me there’s no issue and it’s probably him but 2 of his ex’s have gotten pregnant in the past(both terminated) and I’m to the point of wanting to give up for a while.

  • Teddy
    Nov 12, 2017

    Why don't you go get tested on your own if you think it may be YOUR body? That might be stressful to do alone, but maybe he can video chat while you're in your appts. It took us about that time to get pregnant the first time. I was told it was my hormone levels. Then the month we gave up we got pregnant. I think it had a lot to do with the stress of trying.

  • Katie
    Nov 12, 2017

    Also, try an actual ovulation kit - I know people who were tracking and were off a week so their timing was off. It'll at least get you in the ballpark.

  • Vicki
    Nov 12, 2017

    You don’t both need to go to the appointment. And if they need a sample from him, he doesn’t have to do it in the doctor’s office. And may even be able to drop it at a lab in whatever city he has traveled to. If you have been trying for over a year and you have irregular periods then you should definitely speak to a doctor. I highly recommend Clear Blue Easy ovulation tests. They make it very easy to know when you are ovulating. Good luck, I know how frustrating this can be, especially when you don’t know WHY.

  • Vicki
    Nov 12, 2017

    Also, FYI men’s sperm count and quality declines with age and changes in health and disease. So just because he was able to get someone pregnant in the past, doesn’t mean he still can.

  • Ashley
    Nov 12, 2017

    The past was a year and a half ago.

  • Ashley
    Nov 12, 2017

    Maybe 2 years.

  • Jenn
    Nov 12, 2017

    I already had kids, he did not. We talked about having one together. Month after month it didn’t happen. I started getting very discouraged and finally just kind of tried to accept that it wasn’t going to happen for us. After 3 years I thought I had a really bad flu... until I went to the dr and found out that it was morning sickness. Our little girl is now a year and a half old. Sometimes all you need is to take the pressure off of yourselves and let nature take its course. Good luck!

  • KRSone
    Nov 12, 2017

    I tried for my first child for a year too. For me it was stress and pressure. I finally gave up thinking it wasn't going to happen ever and bam pregnant. My second child I was in no hurry and relaxed, expecting it take forever, like the first and it only took one "try". Maybe something else is going on for you but I really think the stress while ttc really had an impact on me.

  • Linda
    Nov 13, 2017

    Give yourself a break from trying for a bit. Do something you’ve been wanting to do for a while but haven’t done because you’ve been tracking and waiting and waiting and tracking. Then jump back in. It sounds like you are just having a timing issue with a partner who travels a lot. If there’s one thing I learned struggling with fertility it’s that timing is so important. Even the doctors can’t always get it right with all the testing and blood draws and drugs.

  • Anonymous
    Nov 29, 2017

    I’m 15 weeks pregnant now with my first IVF baby (and only baby ever at that). We decided after a year of trying to call a fertility specialist in January 2017. I didn’t get pregnant until September 2017. So I’d say, make the call now because unfortunately once you start fertility testing & treatment the baby may not come overnight. I know for us making that first call was so hard, I couldn’t (and part of me still doesn’t) believe we were having a problem. It was a sad and hard time and I didn’t want to believe it. I felt like making the call to a fertility clinic made it real: we couldn’t get pregnant. But honestly making that first call took so much weight off of our shoulders and started our journey and plan. I hope this helps and I wish you all the luck in getting what you want.

  • Sara
    Nov 29, 2017

    Also 15 weeks pregnant with my first IVF baby! Having conceived my first daughter naturally I never imagined I'd be down this path, but it wasn't as scary as I had anticipated. Yes the process can take awhile so best to get it started as soon as you realize it's not happening on its own.