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What are some things to know about postpartum

My friend is having a baby and I was wondering what are some things everyone wished they would have known about after giving birth? I have already shared with her my experience just kind of curious what others thought on the subject as well.

  • Kieli
    Jul 11

    With my first, I didn’t realize how much pain I would be in. I had second degree tearing from my daughter being born with her thumb in her mouth. My husband had to bring our mattress downstairs, so I could sleep in my bed. I didn’t take a real shower at home for about a week because I couldn’t go up the stairs. And when I did finally go up the stairs, it was literally one step at a time, and I had to break every couple of steps. So thankful I had my husband and MIL to help for 2 weeks

  • Cathy
    Jul 11

    This is a great post. While your baby is first - so is Mama. Sleep when you can. And - tell your SO to keep an eye on you if there’s any changes that you’re not able to see in yourself.

  • Elle
    Jul 11

    Post. Partum. Doula.

  • PK
    Jul 11

    I wish I knew it could take several days for your milk to come in and then several weeks to establish a supply to keep up with your kid (I exclusively pumped). I was so hard on myself for not breastfeeding from the get go and the lactation consultants in the hospital didn’t help either. Also give her an FYI about tongue ties and lip ties that can make breastfeeding hard for kids. Also... if something doesn’t feel right when you get home, see a dr right away!! I had trouble breathing and I was trying to ignore it. Turns out my body wasn’t getting rid of fluid I retained fast enough and it was seeping into my lungs making it difficult to breathe. I was given prescription diuretics. Mastitis is a b****. If you get clogged ducts often, look into taking soy lecithin. Don’t wait to get antibiotics if you do get mastitis.

  • Rebecca
    Jul 11

    I wish I’d known its ok to use formula to supplement and real milk takes a few days and when baby cries for food. A fed baby is better than a starving baby. I wish I’d known about freezing some pads with witch hazel in the freezer or newborn diapers is a huge pain reliever. And ask for and take all the help that is provided. Ask for help in the hospital make your recovery at the hospital a priority and get sleep. It seems it’s all about baby not mom. So advocate for moms sleep there.

  • A
    Jul 12

    Not to get anxious and upset that milk didn't come in immediately. And all the people around repeatedly asking me why my milk didn't come in right after birth were just ignorant. It took me 2 days for few drops to come in and few weeks to produce enough for my 9 lb baby. He was on formula for the first week and then ebf for 1 year. Now I know he would be fine either way. The incessant pumping (to make the milk come in), the constant worry and stress and the scheduled pumping doesn't really help. Take it easy and hold the baby and nurse. It'll happen when it'll happen and it's fine even if it doesn't.

  • Jennifer
    Jul 12

    Your baby is fine. Your doing great and the housework will eventually get done. Take time to heal and bond with your baby

  • Megan
    Jul 12

    Stock up on these! Dermoplast Spray and Tucks Pads! Luckily our hospital gave these out along with the ice packs for your area! Ask every nurse on every shift for more! They have no issues giving you lots for your at home care. They worked wonders on my vaginal deliveries. I’m sorry I can’t give advice about c-section healing. But also, with my first I had some tearing and needed a stitch from ripping.... it was awful. But it all hurt down there so I didn’t know exactly where the tears were. And I didn’t think to ask the nurses. But a week postpartum I made my poor husband take a picture of what was happening down there. Thank the Lord cause than I knew exactly where I needed the medicine and it alleviated sooo much pain an I feel made it heal quicker.

  • J
    Jul 13

    i had a c-section and while i internally told myself to take it easy, it was really hard to do. you have to be forgiving to yourself - especially with your first.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 16

    I also wish someone would've told me that my milk went come until a few days. I wish someone told me about the fourth trimester which is the first 3 months of the baby's life. During this time self care is also really important. And you'll feel like it's the apocalypse and you're doing all you can to survive. It's ok to ask for help and take a break. Having a newborn is hard. Especially your first. Breastfeeding is hard. Google E.A.S.Y method.

  • Brittany
    Jul 17

    The first couple weeks are the time to take care of yourself and bond with the baby.. forget about chores and anything else that can wait. Just take it easy and hold the baby. You absolutely cannot spoil a newborn.. just hold that sweet baby all day long! Get a Bobby to make all that holding more comfortable. Don’t play on your phone while you breastfeed. Take the time to gaze at that sweet face and those tiny hands and feet.. you will never look back one day and wish you had held your baby less. They grow up so fast and the newborn phase is so short. Take lots of pictures and videos. Cherish this short time.. one day you will put them down and never pick them up again and you will miss those days. Breastfeeding is hard and it can be very painful but it gets way better! Be patient with yourself and with baby. It’s worth the sleep deprivation. It’ll all be over so quickly. Savor every moment..

  • Angela
    Jul 18

    Everything above is spot on. The pain associated with breastfeeding is short term as your nipples adjust, and both you and baby will reap the benefits once you overcome the pain threshold. I would also make time for a massage, chiropractor care, and see a pelvic specialist if you can. I was introduced to the mutu system (google online) to help get my internal self back to shape. I’m thankful for all these resources. Lastly, this is not often talked about- if you feel you had birth trauma ask around (doula, midwife, etc) to seek care. This is not about postpartum depression but about addressing (making peace) the trauma you experienced while giving birth- especially when your birth plan doesn’t go as planned. I read “Pregnancy Brain”, but I also met with a birth trauma hypnotherapist- both helped me mentally.

  • Anonymous
    Jul 18

    Thank you everyone! I have been making a list to email her. This has been so helpful

  • Caroline
    Aug 08

    Coming in late here, but echoing the thing about formula! A fed, healthy baby is the goal. Give yourself and your body time and take care of you so you can then care for your baby. Tell people what you want and need; we have amazing friends who organized a food train—incredible!—but they all brought insanely carby comfort foods that lacked protein and fiber. By the end of week 3, I thought I was going to die and kept ordering/running to the store for meat, veggies, and fruit. Should’ve just asked them instead of worrying about hurting feelings when they volunteered to bring food! Also, if you have any birth trauma, talk to a therapist. I thought I could handle my emotions around my baby and me both being in intensive care after 3 days of stalled labor and a c-section. I’m still dealing with the emotional issues and wish I had gotten counseling sooner. Get a post partum doula, and if your healthcare provider is not giving you adequate follow up care, switch to one that will. They tend to treat you like once the baby is out, you’re good to go... not the case. After the birth, your whole phase of recovery and adjusting begins and you need support to thrive. Lastly, you can do it, and none of us knows what we’re doing. People on social media who look like they’ve got it all figured out are just as lost sometimes as we are. <3